Self esteem issues
I'm still learning and don't have a lot of comforting words to share but I send you my hugs..
An active alcoholic can do a fine job at
quacking their way into thinking that
everything that goes wrong in the
relationship is your fault..
Of course, it takes two.....
Lately, I've been going to open AA Discussion
meetings and when I begin listening to "the other side"
it helps me understand things so much better. From there, I can
figure out what my part is (if any) and begin to work on any
resentments I may have towards him or myself...
I hope you feel better soon....
Linda
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Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: Southern US
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I can so relate choublak. In my case, I know the lack of self esteem affected my choice in a man. I made too many choices out of a desire for affirmation and approval from others (I think steaming from the neglect in my childhood.) Going forward, I'm choosing to seek that affirmation and approval only from myself and my higher power (God for me.) Until I am comfortable and happy with who I am, I have no business being in a romantic relationship. I'm choosing not to date after my divorce until I know that I'm ready. I have no illusions. That will likely be years. If that means I end up a crazy, single, cat-lady, so be it
I can so relate choublak. In my case, I know the lack of self esteem affected my choice in a man. I made too many choices out of a desire for affirmation and approval from others (I think steaming from the neglect in my childhood.) Going forward, I'm choosing to seek that affirmation and approval only from myself and my higher power (God for me.) Until I am comfortable and happy with who I am, I have no business being in a romantic relationship. I'm choosing not to date after my divorce until I know that I'm ready. I have no illusions. That will likely be years. If that means I end up a crazy, single, cat-lady, so be it
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