choublak

Having been in a relationship with an alcoholic, I sometimes feel like I can't do anything right, not even pick a man.

Katchie

Yeah, I hear ya. When I look back and really think about it, I've been duped for quite a long time. I feel like there must be something wrong with me.
I'm still learning and don't have a lot of comforting words to share but I send you my hugs..

lillamy

Hugs. Having been in a long marriage to an A, when I did meet and marry a great guy, I don't feel I deserve him.

Back to working the program is my solution.

Hammer

Thank you

Diva76

I can totally relate....
An active alcoholic can do a fine job at
quacking their way into thinking that
everything that goes wrong in the
relationship is your fault..
Of course, it takes two.....
Lately, I've been going to open AA Discussion
meetings and when I begin listening to "the other side"
it helps me understand things so much better. From there, I can
figure out what my part is (if any) and begin to work on any
resentments I may have towards him or myself...

I hope you feel better soon....


Linda

JustAGirl1971

I can so relate choublak. In my case, I know the lack of self esteem affected my choice in a man. I made too many choices out of a desire for affirmation and approval from others (I think steaming from the neglect in my childhood.) Going forward, I'm choosing to seek that affirmation and approval only from myself and my higher power (God for me.) Until I am comfortable and happy with who I am, I have no business being in a romantic relationship. I'm choosing not to date after my divorce until I know that I'm ready. I have no illusions. That will likely be years. If that means I end up a crazy, single, cat-lady, so be it

Katchie

Thank you for those words Ive thought but never spoke or wanted to dwell on for too long. For me its true.. I believe I've done the same thing.