MightyFlea21

To pick up bottle I wine for tonight's dinner party. How am I going to keep myself from getting that pint of delicious vodka too? I'm currently 11 days sober. Must resist somehow...

Anna

Don't go to the liquor store. Problem solved.

least

Can't someone else get the wine? And if you absolutely must go, make up your mind beforehand that you are only there for wine, nothing else.

I hope you won't be among those drinking the wine at the dinner party.

Dee74

I don;t know the back story MF, but I know I couldn't go near a liquor store for months.
My recovery was too important to me.

I had to make changes in my life, or I was sunk.

D

MightyFlea21

I have to go because my wife is busy and also doesn't know I have this issue. I don't plan to have any wine at the party but it's the pint of vodka that I'm tempted with. I can do without the wine no problem. I would hate to reset the clock back to 0. Ughhh! Y can't I just drink in moderation like others? Then this wouldn't be such a issue.

lovingit

I drank vodka for 20 years, one thing it's not, is delicious.

bigsombrero

Flea, I think this might not be a good idea. Eleven days in, and you're going to a liquor store and following up with Saturday night party? I'd advise against both, but it seems too late for that. It sounds like you might want to come up with a solid plan for sobriety moving forward that doesn't involve liquor stores and parties that involve alcohol, at least for a while. Hope things go well for you tonight.

Dee74

Trying to get sober is hard. Trying to do it without anyone else knowing makes it even harder.

You don't need to shout it from the rooftops but I think, if going to the store causes you this much turmoil? you might need to let those closest to you in on the secret.

I know you said that you think she will leave you - but think about it - that means she already knows you have a problem.

make some changes Flea - trying to keep on living a drinkers life is gonna either make you crack or leave you miserable.
D

PurpleKnight

DON'T GO!! . . . might be time to clear the air with your wife and say your not comfortable going as you've cut back on drinking alcohol, can you help out with the other things if your wife goes instead?

Zeepa

I drank vodka too, it tastes like nail polish remover.

Another thing is to not serve wine at the dinner party..take sparkling juice instead. You wont be able to keep this secret forever, the longer its there the more it will fester.

jkb

My advise is to stay away from the liquor store right now. Your describing the vodka as "delicious" so your chances of getting out of there without
A. Vodka or

B. Anger at not having vodka

are slim.

I don't know but, maybe just call someone who is coming and say "can you grab a bottle of wine on your way?"

Jess

Mags1

MightyFlea, stay strong, keep posting on sr, tomorrow celebrate 12 days sober.

aasharon90

I'm an alcoholic and have no business in
a liquor store or around it whether Im in
early recovery or 23 yrs sober, which is
where I am today.

Recovery from day one thru all the many
days I have sober has and still is my number
one priority if I am to remain happy, joyous,
free and honest in recovery.

My recovery is mine and I will not allow
anyone one to mess with it.

I stand strong with my intentions to
remain sober by all means because I
am not ready to die yet. Life in sobriety
is beyond words I can express. I treasure
it, protect it, am humbled by it, blessed
for it.

EndGameNYC

If you could "just drink in moderation like others," then drinking wouldn't be important to you.

If your wife doesn't know, this is a good time to let the cat out of its bag.

MightyFlea21

I'm back home. Picked up a bottle of wine...and nothing more. I was so tempted to just grab a bottle and chug it right there but I knew it wouldn't end there. I'd binge all week if not more. Feels good for sure but would be lying if I said I don't miss the buzz. I'm in the clear for the dinner party now. Wine never tempted me and if I can resist vodka, wine is a walk in the park. Thanks everyone for your support as always.

Zeepa

If, like me, you had pancreatitis, emergency stomach surgery when you collapsed in agony, kidney failure and liver trouble you wouldnt miss "the buzz".

CAPTAINZING2000

then, tell her what your issue is with the alcohol it's your wife not an acquaintance, you need her support in this !!!

Elisabeth888

I bring dessert to dinner parties now

PurpleKnight

Yeah man, you gotta lay things out for your wife, that was a close call, you'd surely agree with that, be open and honest and this won't happen in the future!!

Kris47

Ya done good.

Now, if you can, let the people know you are abstaining. Ask your wife for help to continue on a path of sobriety.