autan

Yesterday, a associate and I went to a restaurant to discuss some marketing business. We entered the restaurant together and I went to the mens. When I came out I sat down at the table and there was a pint of lager in front of me.

I said to him, "whats that".

He said, "I got you a pint in".

"Listen Geoff, there something I have to tell you. I dont drink anymore, I will get the waiter to change it to something else.".

"Like f--k you will, I am not saying cheers over an orange juice or some sh1t like that, I got you a drink, get it down your neck". He said.

"Whoa Whoa cloth ears, did you not get the memo, when I say I am not drinking, I mean it. My Thyroid is f------d from drinking that sh1t for years, so either you drink it or change it." I said

"Whats your problem its only one pint, its not going to kill you is it ?" He kept on and on.

Calmly, I just said to him, "Next time don't assume to buy me a drink, without asking me first. I accept you couldnt have known my position, but now you do. Now you can either drink it yourself and I will order something else or I will swap it".

"Whats with the attitude ?" He kept on.

"When I say, I don't drink anymore, it is not open to negotiation, the conversation and the meeting are over. You have been told and as far as I am concerned your taking liberties.". I got my coat and walked out. Leaving him to pay for HIS drinks.

He later rang me and said he couldn't do business with me, anymore. I said to him, it would appear that way wouldn't it.

He was a jerk anyway and I never really did get along with him.
Fancy trying to force people to drink, because of a £3.50 beer.

Stank of bleach again too. Since my hypnotherapy thats what all alcohol smells of to me.

Dee74

You handled that well autan - it's amazing what a hold alcohol, and the social aspect of it, has on people, even people who wouldn't identify themselves as problem drinkers.

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autan

The smell was getting to me, but I felt like a child and an adult trying to get me to finish my dinner, I didnt want. Then I thought I am not a child, I can leave at any time.

I have been drinking with him in the past and he is not any kind of fun to be around when he has had a few. Aggressive and very adversarial in his manner.

I just dont need that in my life anymore.

KateL

Well done. What an idiot. You are well rid. The hypnotherapy thing sounds interesting. I wish I knew about that back in the day. I would have asked them to make booze smell of poo. Can you imagine walking into a bar? lol xxxx

deeker

Wow!! That was awesome! good 4 u!!!

suki44883

Yeah, I was thinking he sounded like a jerk and a control freak. He's probably that way about other things, too. You're well rid of him, I think.

Notimetoloose

You did well. I am sorry you loss the potential for future business.

The funny thing is, he probably has no insight that he doesn't have the right to insist you have a drink, whether you are on meds or not.

So ingrained is drinking in some cultures that it's possible that he thinks, "Who does he think he is, he won't even have a drink with me".

autan

I see you have some experience with this type of person too. Thats exactly what he would have been telling himself.

Mags1

Very forthright autun, like your style x

PurpleKnight

That makes me angry, I understand he got the beer as he didn't know, but then to push it over and over, this whole "it's only 1 beer" is madness . . . say that to a diabetic over a bar of chocolate or someone quitting smoking!! . . . with an alcoholic, it may very well KILL!!

But no, it's acceptable to make a big issue over people not having a drink in the society we live in!

Great job though on standing your ground and not giving in!!

autan

For me its like walking into a swimming baths. Its very profound smell of bleach and chlorine. No one would drink it, they couldnt.

alphaomega

With friends like that, who needs enemas ?

autan

People like that are just a waste of time, they belong in my past and I am only focused on the future.

Charlie117926

Congrats autan.

I hope my strength will be at your level. I will be confronted with this situation Saturday. I have been worrying about it all day. I can here the jeers in my head already when I order water or tea. But your post is a huge help to me. Thanks for sharing. 13 hours of sobriety so far. Thank you

autan

Charlie, you are Sober, this is your choice. Others should respect it. Well done on 13 hours, keep looking where you want to be and you will get there.

Django

Your a better man than me Autan, i would of chinned him.

Kaneda8888

Well done Autan.


What a strange person to not be able to accept that you cant drink, speaks volumes about HIM.

Anna

I'm glad you stayed strong, Autan.

Cathryn2001

You did an amazing job!

least

He's an idiot, and a mean one at that. You're well rid of him.