tnman1967

If I make it to Monday I have managed to stay of the drink for six months. I don't have much cravings anymore and I feel pretty good about it. Then I lost my dad today and I thought that I would go out and drink. But surprisingly no real cravings set in. I'm not sure if this time is really different or what. I am really scared of getting complacent because I know that's when the danger begins. I am heartbroken over my dad but he was 80 years old and had cancer real bad.

Thanks for listening,

BigShoe

Sorry for your loss. Drinking won't help. There's some good folks in the grief forum too. Take care of yourself and family

least

I am glad for your six months sober but sorry for the loss of your dad.

Dee74

I'm so sorry for your loss tnman.

I've lost a few friends since I've been sober too... I had no impulse to drink either.

I think we change...but I think we still need to be vigilant and not get complacent, for sure.

D

Zeepa

Sorry for your loss

Ive lost two family members recently and I would have normally put myself right back in the bottle to think of anything else. Glad I didnt though. If I had done, I wouldnt be on this now. Its the biggest challenge we face and I really feel for you

Hang in there x

KateL

Sorry about your dad x

carebearlost

So sorry about the loss of your dad.

deeker

So very sorry for your loss. If you can get through this you can get through anything! That is the one fear I have. When my parents pass. They are also in their 80's.

Notimetoloose

So sorry about your loss.
Well done, what a milestone, C'mon Monday

JustMeg

I'm so sorry for your loss tnman. Did your Dad know about your recovery? I imagine it must have been nice for him to see you get sober before he passed. 6 months is an achievement to be very proud of, well done. Meg xx

tnman1967

No he didn't really know that I was drinking that much, he lived in Europe and I'm in the U.S. and I only saw him once a year at best. I've lived over here for more than twenty years.

Hevyn

I'm sorry too tnman - but very proud of you for not picking up. Congratulations on your 6 months - you are doing great.

Anna

I'm sorry for the loss of your dad, and I'm so glad that you are 6 months sober.

Kaneda8888

My condolences for your loss, Tnman. Well done on the 6 months and the fact that you can appreciate your Dad !

Mags1

Sorry for your loss of your dad tnman.x

6 months on Monday, is that the 20 th cos it's 6 months for me on the 20 th. Congratulations for your milestone for Monday x

tnman1967

Yes, July 20th, is when I put the bottle down.

FreeOwl

congratulations!!!

Not IF you make it through the weekend... WHEN!!!

It's good you're thinking of this and aware of the danger - please take some concrete actions. If you're an AA sort, hit a few meetings this weekend. If you're not, maybe give it a try. It can't really hurt.

Go back and look at your old journal entries or posts on SR about why you committed to sobriety in the first place. Make some new lists about the things that brought you pain and sorrow about drinking.

Spend some time reflecting on the goodness in your life.

Reflect on the good times you had with your dad.

Take some time to have a little ritual of grieving and goodbye to him....

Action helps...

Remember that 6 months is a very common relapse point for alcoholics....

Hang in there, stay sober.

soberhawk

Sorry for your loss tnman.

Ethos23

Sorry for your loss. Stay strong. If you make it through this you will come out on the other side much stronger and confident in your sobriety.