fookie12

Hi everyone,

This is my first post in SR, and new to the community.

Not sure which forum is the appropriate room to share my thought and receive advice and feedback of others going through similar experiences.

I am a husband and carer for my wife. who has had alcohol problems and been addicted to zolpidem a prescription sleeping pills for 10 years.

My wife also suffers from depression and other anxiety related problems.

she's currently just completed her 1st week at a detox centre for alcohol and drugs, where after she'll go on to a 12 week rehab programme, now the centre she's gone to is very highly rated and has great reviews.

I think I've over the years with her I had to learn a lot about the illnesses and destruction it causes, and by all means feel I'm a very understanding, patient person, with her best interest at heart.

but, at the moment feel I'm a bit lost and left constantly nervous, apprehensive and not able to relax yet, as the fear of her leaving the detox, before her time.

Now, just for yr info my wife has attended a detox centre a year ago, and ended up leaving just before her time.

So, I'm sure you can see why I'm quite anxious. I'm constantly reassuring her , motivating her and trying to keep going, that one day is better than the other, and there will be ups and downs, but look to another day, and things will get better.

I'm sure all of you who have partners or relatives with these addictions know how manipulative and guilty they can make you feel, if things are not going there way or having a bad day.

I was wondering if anyone else is going through a similar thing, where you feel happy yr loved one is getting help, but cannot let go, because that person has been extremely needy, you tend to forget yrself, and just focus on them.

Now, feel a bit lost, just don't feel like really talking too much or going out yet, just feel physically, emotionally, mentally quite shattered.

Any feedback or advice, or similar experiences will be most gratefully received.

Dee74

Hi Fookie - welcome

you'll find a lot of support here and in our Family and Friends forums too, further down on the main forum index page.

There's a lot of people who've had experiences similar to yours who may be able to help

good to have you join us
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Kris47

Hello Fookie,

Welcome and hope you find some good answers here from those who have similar experiences.

It is hard being a care giver regardless of the situation. Alcohol and drugs can make it that much worse. I am a caregives for my husband and although he is not a user of any kind it is still hard devoting your time 100%.

I feel privledged to be able to do for him but sometimes you need to take care of yourself. Hope you can find ways to relax and pamper yourself a little. Wishing you the best and her on a good outcome.

fookie12

Thank you Kris and Dee for yr advice and nice welcome1