Any experience with child reps in custody dispute?

Old 01-01-2014, 09:38 PM
  # 1 (permalink)  
Member
Thread Starter
 
Join Date: Apr 2013
Posts: 120
Any experience with child reps in custody dispute?

Has anyone out there had experience with a child rep? One has just been assigned to our custody case. My stbxh (poly addict) attempted sobriety for the past year, he stopped working his programs and relapsed on Thanksgiving when he was supposed to be with our 3 yr old. He lied for 4 weeks about it and then the truth finally came out when he filed an emergency motion against me. He says it was just alcohol, but then tested positive for one of his drugs of choice - benzo (home screen) I do not want our daughter to go to overnights with him, he has had a seizure in the past, outpatients, inpatient, ER visits. Does anyone have experience with child reps and how they view addicts, how linient are they? Any experience would be helpful. Btw - it's my birthday and am looking forward to a more peaceful 2014. Happy New Year. Thank you all for taking the time to help.
Readreadread is offline  
Old 01-02-2014, 04:51 AM
  # 2 (permalink)  
Ann
Nature Girl
 
Ann's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: By The Lake
Posts: 60,328
I have no experience personally with this but from what I hear it is good if you document when and where past occurrences happened. The more documentation you have, the better your odds of having visitation restricted, supervised or cancelled completely until a decent period of sobriety can be "proven".

It would be a good idea to get a lawyer involved to protect you, your child and your rights.

It frightens me to think of young children in the care of an active addict or alcoholic who cannot be responsible for themselves, let alone anyone else.

Good luck, you are in my prayers.

Hugs
Ann is offline  
Old 01-02-2014, 06:14 AM
  # 3 (permalink)  
Member
 
hopeful4's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2010
Location: USA
Posts: 13,560
Document, document, document. My sister and her husband had constant battles with his children's mother who is a real piece of work let me tell you. In the end, the rep is a human being. Alot of it depends on the person. They had a couple really super great ones, they had a couple that were terrible. They documented every single thing they could which really helped them in the end.

Good Luck, my heart is with you. How awful.
hopeful4 is offline  

Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off




All times are GMT -7. The time now is 04:22 AM.