Arabell
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Arabell
Well cant believe ive joined this site believe me its taken a lot of courage. Im on day one and i already feel bit weird. Its a journey ive got to take before i lose all that is dear to me. Its taken me probably 20 years to realise my relationship with alcohol is not normal. I can pinpoint when it became my crutch, a way to detach from reality, it jus seems to have happened. If theres anyone out there can relate to this please answer.
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Welcome to SR! Glad you found us. Indeed it took courage to join and post, but I think those are big steps towards sobriety. Relating to other people that struggled with Alcohol will help you immensely.
Facing reality without being numb is possible, and YOU can be feee of this addiction.
Facing reality without being numb is possible, and YOU can be feee of this addiction.
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Welcome Arabell 
I remember realizing what my relationship with alcohol was...the realisation hit like a fist.
I think a lot of us can identify - you'll find a lot of stories and a ton of support here
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I remember realizing what my relationship with alcohol was...the realisation hit like a fist.
I think a lot of us can identify - you'll find a lot of stories and a ton of support here
D
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Welcome to SR
I was also using Alcohol (and pot) to detach from reality. The most important thing I have realized since I stopped drinking and smoking is that the reality of being addicted is FAR WORSE than the reality of a sober life.
Just don't take that first drink for the next minute or hour or day and pretty soon you will have a week behind you, then a month and then a year.
Congratulations on the most important decision you have ever made!
You have come to the right place for support and don't forget... There is always someone here to lean on, so don't hesitate to post and ask for help.
Just don't take that first drink for the next minute or hour or day and pretty soon you will have a week behind you, then a month and then a year.
Congratulations on the most important decision you have ever made!
You have come to the right place for support and don't forget... There is always someone here to lean on, so don't hesitate to post and ask for help.
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ya, I can relate. I wanted to detach from reality. I ended up with so much detachment that I didn't know what life was. I made a mess so deep I wanted to just drink to make it go away... but wasn't that what I did yesterday?
I won't lie to you. It's difficult in the beginning, but then it gets better ...and then it gets difficult again.... but then it gets MUCH better.
Come join us.
I won't lie to you. It's difficult in the beginning, but then it gets better ...and then it gets difficult again.... but then it gets MUCH better.
Come join us.
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Welcome to the Forum Arabell 
I can definitely relate, alcohol has a crafty way of spiralling, 1 nightcap of Whisky, turned into a few glasses after work, turned into a quarter bottle a night, turned into a half bottle a night!!
The body ends up needing more and more, If I hadn't of stopped, i'd have slowly killed myself consuming a bottle or more a day!!
The good news is, life doesn't need to be this way, with a crutch, and you'll finds loads of support here from people who are trying to turn there life around for the better!!
I can definitely relate, alcohol has a crafty way of spiralling, 1 nightcap of Whisky, turned into a few glasses after work, turned into a quarter bottle a night, turned into a half bottle a night!!
The body ends up needing more and more, If I hadn't of stopped, i'd have slowly killed myself consuming a bottle or more a day!!
The good news is, life doesn't need to be this way, with a crutch, and you'll finds loads of support here from people who are trying to turn there life around for the better!!
to the family. I didn't notice it creeping up on me til I was firmly addicted. 
Glad those days are gone now. Member
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Join Date: Dec 2013
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Its going to be a good day thanks to u all just knowing your there and the thought of being able to tell you ive got threw another day wil keep me strong bring on day two
Thank you
Arabell
Thank you
Arabell
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Welcome to you, Arabell
I'm new to this too, not recovery, but to this site. This is definitely a plus to be able to communicate with others about these things. Keep it up, girl. You're on the right track. Yes, it takes a LOT of courage to "do it yourself", admit powerlessness etc. I admitted it but needed a "Nudge from the Judge" to get myself into recovery - and believe me I wanted it but couldn't bring my two feet to agree with me!
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Welcome to SR, Arabell! We've all been where you are now. I realized in an oddly detached way maybe 15 years ago that I didn't drink like normal people...but I went on to drink hard for another 14 years. Now at 14 months sober the old life seems like a bad dream!
You can do it Arabell! It's good to have you here at SR!
You can do it Arabell! It's good to have you here at SR!
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Wow ur replies are so encouraging ive just got back from my fitness class before i went i threw half bottle of wine in outdoor big bin. Cant beleve i have even thought about rooting it out how disgusting, but because of being able to talk to you all im pleased to say i havent fished it out. Going to shower and get out of this house. I just got to find myself again. Ive decided im going to try a short liver detox, ambitious i no and if it to much at once not going to beat myself up. 
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Sounds good, Arabell. I don't know what method or philosophy you plan to use to achieve sobriety, but AVRT has worked for me. You can do a search for it if you're interested. For me going through the intro/slide-show was all it took, and my cravings dropped pretty much to zero right away. It's free so it's worth a look.
Again, good to have you aboard.
Again, good to have you aboard.
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Welcome, Arabell
If you haven't already drunk the G&Ts, you can throw them out and still be on Day 2? But if you have, take note of how you feel now and make a commitment to be sober from tomorrow.
Tackling this beast is not easy and many of us make more than one attempt. The road to sobriety is not a straight one but it ultimately leads to freedom. If you keep on trying, you will get there
If you haven't already drunk the G&Ts, you can throw them out and still be on Day 2? But if you have, take note of how you feel now and make a commitment to be sober from tomorrow.
Tackling this beast is not easy and many of us make more than one attempt. The road to sobriety is not a straight one but it ultimately leads to freedom. If you keep on trying, you will get there
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