My brother respects me again!
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Join Date: Aug 2013
Location: Preston, Lancashire, UK
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My brother respects me again!
Been sober since July and tonight has been a great night. Went to a meeting, served brews etc. I then got a txt saying that my brother had broken his toe so after I went to see him at his house and he is off work for 4weeks.
Turned up at his and his mates were. They are not problematic drinkers, just tipsy on a Saturday night on mulled wine. I was offered an alcoholic drink but said no and just had a lemonade.
My brother said he was fine and just needed to rest his foot. I mentioned to him for the first time that I had stoppped drinking and going to meetings. He has seen me in some right states in the past. We have not had a proper conversation in ages.
He then sent me a txt after saying I looked a lot more healthy and was pleased i am sober and told me to keep it up which meant a lot.
I feel relationships improve with time and he seems a lot more relaxed and willing to have a conversation with me.
I think making amends is not just about saying "sorry", I have said "sorry" many times in the past! Relationships, respect and trust improve with time. Does anyone else feel this as well?
Turned up at his and his mates were. They are not problematic drinkers, just tipsy on a Saturday night on mulled wine. I was offered an alcoholic drink but said no and just had a lemonade.
My brother said he was fine and just needed to rest his foot. I mentioned to him for the first time that I had stoppped drinking and going to meetings. He has seen me in some right states in the past. We have not had a proper conversation in ages.
He then sent me a txt after saying I looked a lot more healthy and was pleased i am sober and told me to keep it up which meant a lot.
I feel relationships improve with time and he seems a lot more relaxed and willing to have a conversation with me.
I think making amends is not just about saying "sorry", I have said "sorry" many times in the past! Relationships, respect and trust improve with time. Does anyone else feel this as well?
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Yes, absolutely, I agree.
Making amends is, I think, much more than saying sorry. When I was drinking, I let my daughter down and I lost her respect completely. I have, for the last 13 years, made every effort to never do that again, for any reason. She depends on me. When she had her first child, I was the person she chose to leave him with the first time she had to go out.
Making amends is, I think, much more than saying sorry. When I was drinking, I let my daughter down and I lost her respect completely. I have, for the last 13 years, made every effort to never do that again, for any reason. She depends on me. When she had her first child, I was the person she chose to leave him with the first time she had to go out.
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Yes I agree and also have a brother that is waiting for me to get on track. We had an argument during one of my drinking binges and next day I told him I was sorry but sorry was not enough anymore.
Told him I would walk the talk finally and we could talk when I have 6 months.
Told him I would walk the talk finally and we could talk when I have 6 months.
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