lorelei

I've been lurking for a while but can't get back to where I need to be. Too much pain and sadness not to drink.

I'm doomed to drink. And I've finally accepted it.

Coldfusion

Maybe you're just doomed to have a desire to drink.

You don't have to do it.

doggonecarl

I don't think you are doomed to drink. But I don't think you have done everything in your power to stop. Just a couple posts ago you were still on the fence about AA. An option you haven't tried. So in that sense you are doomed not to succeed if your attempts are half-hearted..

Sorry for your sadness. But you can change the drinking today, and I pray you do.

Cynderino

((hugs))

I hope you choose not to drink today. It is possible to get through whatever is going on without drinking. You will be better for it too.

Flying4Life

You are the master of your own fate Lorelei. Don't let the darkness overwhelm you, within you is a beautiful light that cannot be extinguished. We are here for you. (((HUGS)))

Raider

Love you Lorelei.....

hayley86

Hi lorelei, I don't think you are doomed to drink. I remember you saying that you have had periods of sobriety before. What worked for you back then? Could you maybe take a similar approach now? We are here to support you. You can do it. Best wishes.

instant

I hope you can find the courage you need

Avra

Hi Lorelei, look I cannot offer any sage advice, I am struggling too. But what I can say is it isn't some fate of yours, its a choice. You are not doomed and you are only powerless to stop this if you tell yourself so. You have every ability to not drink, you just have to make that choice. Stick around here this weekend - I am committing to be sober this weekend and you can too. You have way more time under your belt that I do. lets do this.

Johnston

You can stop drinking. Many have.

lorelei

I'm weak and pathetic that's why I can't stop.

mecanix

Lorelei ,
giving up hope makes me sad . The apparent relief of alcohol or drugs are delusions . In my small experience drink will drag you down further than we need go . If there are things you haven't tried then try them , please , get more help , get more support , you are worth it and you can't say it's impossible if you've not tried or pursued every avenue . Sometimes it's just time …

I hope you cary on lurking and post so we know your alive and kicking

Be careful , m

Thepatman

I also don't think you are doomed. You have everything out there available untill you find something that works for you. There is AA, Rational Recovery, SMART recovery etc.

Just keep trying new things, I'm sure you will succeed! Don't dispair

anyistoomuch

stop that! stop saying things like that! who is telling you these things to you? you are not pathetic and not weak. no, you- like so many of us, are probably an alcoholic and you are feeling the worst of it right now. you are a lovely person. please go get help. we have all been there, font do this alone and it will be easier.

Markdad3

Not weak or pathetic. Just ill. Alcoholism is a disease. We do recover. There is a simple solution. Do not pick up the first drink. Then join a recovery program. It will help you with the thinking problem that alcoholics have. If I can recover, anyone can. Including you! Are you sick of it? Do you want to stop drinking and feeling miserable, or do you still enjoy the pain?

Coldfusion

For me, the problem was admitting that I was weak. I was too weak to quit drinking and too weak to handle drinking. I needed help, so I went to an in-patient detox and then did ninety meetings in ninety days.

Anna

Lorelei, stop labelling yourself with negative comments.

You can stop drinking, just as many of us here have. You are stronger than you think and I'm sending hugs and positive vibes your way.

least

I used to think I was doomed to die a drunk... until I got sober and realized the choice was in my hands. You're not doomed. Get help and realize you can do this.


Read your own signature. Believe in it.

JaylaaKent

It's not a lack of moral character or weakness. It's a disease - actual alteration of your biochemical/neurological make up that causes the phenomenon of craving. I'm sorry you feel this way LL - try to get some outside help - you don't have to do this alone.

PurpleKnight

No one is doomed to drink!!

We all started with a Day 1, and it only takes just a glimpse of positive thinking to take that leap of faith through the fear and the anxiety, you can too!!