Tomsson

Hi all,

I feel sure I did the right thing earlier on this evening, but I still feel uncertain about it now the genie is out of the bottle - I could do with a dose of group wisdom...

Walking home from a Christmas concert, I asked my nine year old daughter if she'd noticed I didn't drink wine or beer any more. She said that's great, first you stopped smoking and now this, soon you'll be the healthiest of all. Then she asked why. Mindful of everyone else's relatively 'healthy' drinking, I said I got sick of it and didn't like it or its effects any more.

Talking after to my wife, she agreed this was a good way to put it, but she still has a drink with dinner or in front of the telly from time to time, and I can foresee my daughter asking her questions now. I can handle other people's drinking, even around me, but I don't want to unleash the moral vision of a nine year old on them in the run up to Christmas.

What should I be on the lookout for, and how should I play this? Or am I just over-thinking?

SnoozyQ

I think you have done the right thing all round ;-)

Now let it be and don't make an issue of it , unless it becomes an issue or she asks first .

Let her enjoy her 9 year old self xxx

MemphisBlues

Congratulations. I would just let it be. If your wife is a normal drinker and she can have a drink now and then with no consequences, well, she is a normal drinker and that is what normals do.

I don't think it would be an issue with your daughter.

And if it is, it's for your normal drinker wife to address.

All we can do is be responsible for our own sobriety.

Thepatman

You did great!! It will increase your level of pride in yourself. Well done sir

MIRecovery

Unfortunately I told my kids too many times I had quit. The pain in their faces when I would start again is something that still haunts me. For your childs sake do whatever you have to do to stay quit. Everything is secondary to that

Dee74

I agree with the others. She's 9.
What you said was just enough IMO.

if other questions arise, tackle those when you come to them

soberclover

I think you are awesome for talking with your daughter. Our littles know so much more then we think they do. I agree with the others; let it go and deal with it as it unfolds.

KateL

You did really well, just enough info not to trouble her.

Anna

As others have said, you said enough. Now leave it up to her if she asks anymore questions.

Tomsson

Thanks so much for all the replies. And I'll be careful not to turn her into a policeman for my habits. Really good and helpful reassurance - I hope it helps others that this question has been raised here...