Christmas ideas
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Christmas ideas
All joking aside(a while back I said the boot but shes already getting that), I would like to get my stbXAW something for Christmas. She is in treatment and will be coming out around Christmas. I love her and her family but know its best for me to not stay married to her. Anyway, any ideas? What do you get someone you no longer want a relationship with for Christmas? I'm not spiteful and am being sincere. Maybe a book? Some shoes I know she wanted? Also, ideas for her family? Thanks!
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What do you get someone you no longer want a relationship with for Christmas?
I'd probably pick out a few great books or really funny comedies depending on whether she's a reader or a movie watcher. Just based on my AA friends, it seems one of the big issues once you're sober is what to do with all the time you get when you're not drunk all the time... maybe something to keep her company like that?
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Some Nancy Sinatra High Boots . . .
These Boots Are Made For Walking . . ..
Nancy Sinatra - These Boots Are Made for Walkin' - YouTube
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For real, this is on Mrs. Hammer's List . . .
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 5th Edition: DSM-5: American Psychiatric Association: 9780890425558: Amazon.com: Books
Dark humor, but she really needs it in her job.
These Boots Are Made For Walking . . ..
Nancy Sinatra - These Boots Are Made for Walkin' - YouTube
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For real, this is on Mrs. Hammer's List . . .
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 5th Edition: DSM-5: American Psychiatric Association: 9780890425558: Amazon.com: Books
Dark humor, but she really needs it in her job.
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Originally Posted by dandylion 
lillamy---After your post......I reconsidered, and I think you have a very good point. I think a gift card would be more relationship-neutral.Member
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This is gonna sound cold. I apologize in advance.
I know you are serious about this relationship being over. It might be that best gift to her and her family is no gift at all, no token of false hope.
I know you are serious about this relationship being over. It might be that best gift to her and her family is no gift at all, no token of false hope.
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Originally Posted by SparkleKitty
This is gonna sound cold. I apologize in advance.
I know you are serious about this relationship being over. It might be that best gift to her and her family is no gift at all, no token of false hope.
I know you are serious about this relationship being over. It might be that best gift to her and her family is no gift at all, no token of false hope.
ummmm, yeah. True dat.
Hey, forworse, just so you know -- I think the rest of us are just having fun with this.
You cannot half-ass let go of something or someone.
Sort of like being on a dock or a boat. Cannot really do both very long.
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I was thinking about this, whatever I do will be twisted around in her head to mean something it doesn't, something nice, not nice, or even if I did nothing!
So best thing would surely be to do nothing? I guess I can send a card from the children though as its Christmas! I still try to think that deep down there's a nice person there somewhere.
So best thing would surely be to do nothing? I guess I can send a card from the children though as its Christmas! I still try to think that deep down there's a nice person there somewhere.
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Dave---something that I learned along the way---when you give a gift--give only from what is in your heart. Let go of the consequences. If you give from the pure motive of giving--fine. If you are giving a present to receive a present or to get a certain reaction out of another person (for your gain)---then it is not a true gift; it is a manipulation.
This is something that I l earned years ago from one of Ilyanla VanZan's books. It has helped me to have clarity on the subject of gifts and giving.
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This is something that I l earned years ago from one of Ilyanla VanZan's books. It has helped me to have clarity on the subject of gifts and giving.
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Thanks, The manipulation is the thing I'm trying to avoid, I'm doing quite well at the moment I think, and so is the wife. We're on "no contact" until divorce gets finished up, so I'm not really sure why I'm wasting my time thinking about it at all.
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Originally Posted by choublak
A restraining order.
Tweeeelve month restraiiining-order!!!!
Eleven ducks-a-quacking
10 dealers collecting
9 bar-skanks calling
8 debt-collectors knocking
I dunno, I'm sure someones done this spoof already though.
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