TunedOut

Hi Everyone,

I am new to this so I just wanted to introduce myself and maybe get some advice as I figure out how everything works. I have been sober for a month now and it has been great, I feel like I am starting to get the psychological benefits which are welcome.

One interesting challenge I am having (and wondering if anyone else can relate) - I guess I was really good at hiding my drinking - I know how much it bothered me, but it rarely bothered my family/loved ones. So now, as I say I have an issue and that I want to quit drinking, these people don't really understand and seem to think I can cut back or even that I don't have a problem. So I kind of have the opposite problem to most alcoholics in that I seem to have to convince people that I have a problem. Is that strange? Common? I know it is frustrating and does present a challenge.

Anyway, I would just like some advice and maybe some discussion with people about what to expect and how to handle new sobriety.

Thanks!

Like2Hike

Oh yeah, I can relate to your experience. But the same friends or family that can't understand why I no longer partake in their "revelry" weren't the ones guzzling more booze at home after the parties or hungover, incapacitated, and couch bound on a beautiful Saturday.

Congrats and keep at abstaining, TunedOut. For me it's much happier life.

TunedOut

Cool, thanks - that's exactly how I feel - I guess I am happy that no one really saw me at my worst - but it seems crazy to have to convince people that this is really the best choice for me. Thanks for responding, it is nice to hear from people about this stuff!

Anna

My advice is to do what you think is right, and not worry about what friends and family say. You know it's a problem for you and that's what matters.

LindaLou

Congrats on one month, TunedOut! That is fantastic!

newme2day

Tuned out, i can relate. Never got too outta control around family and friends. More so at home. My husband is really the only one who has witnessed the devastation. I am little concerned about Christmas and what everyone will say when i dont have that glass of wine in hand . . .but i'll cross that bridge . . .glad you are doing well in your recovery!

TunedOut

newme2day, thanks for the encouragement - it is still early days but I am optimistic that I am making a positive change. I am also worried about Christmas (and New Year's) but yes, as you say, cross that bridge...I do find that thinking about what it will be like is often worse than what it actually is (yet I still worry all the time...)