Do you reward yourself?
Do you reward yourself?
This is my first night sober and I'm trying to keep busy doing good things for myself (wearing cute boots, eating a healthy dinner, fancy wine glass with sparkling water).... But I'm wondering if anyone treats themselves to any reward after a week or month of not drinking. I was thinking of setting aside the money I would have spent in a jar everyday, but seeing how self-control is not one of my finer qualities, I decided against it, lol.
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I did little rewards for a while - a bit of chocolate an ice cream etc...eventually living sober kinda becomes its own reward tho, you know?
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I did little rewards for a while - a bit of chocolate an ice cream etc...eventually living sober kinda becomes its own reward tho, you know?
I also like to reward myself with things that are pampering to me. I never knew how much I loved giving myself facials and manicures until I got sober! It is always a treat and makes me feel pretty. I also like getting jewellery after significant milestones. I love sober me and I deserve to feel and look good.
I rewarded myself a ton and still do. While in early recovery, I also got out of an abusive relationship so rewarding myself was a top priority. I bought new clothes because I lost weight, new shoes, new pieces of not too expensive jewelry. I really got into groupon and living social when treating myself. I treated myself to classes that I had always wanted to take; trapeze flying, sushi making. I get myself one of these gifts on a monthly basis and have planned to take the day off from work when I reach my one year mark to have an all day spa splurge. But on a daily basis, I found some really good low or no calorie juices to keep on hand and I ate really good food and lots of desserts everyday. Getting sober is a HUGE deal and we should be treating ourselves kindly and with whatever that keeps us sober.
I've been using groupon too for things like massages and facials. I also pick up small things like bubble bath and candles. And ice cream. I've eaten more ice cream in the past three months than I have in my entire life.
I've done all kinds of fun, crazy and wonderful things since I quit drinking alcohol.
Lost a ton of weight, cut my hair into a great style and colored it a beautiful shade of lavender, bought some inexpensive but really fun clothes, redecorated my tiny little apartment, helping others, stopped smoking...
Sometimes I reward myself by doing absolutely nothing and being perfectly content with that.
Even the bad days are great days compared to the old days.
Lost a ton of weight, cut my hair into a great style and colored it a beautiful shade of lavender, bought some inexpensive but really fun clothes, redecorated my tiny little apartment, helping others, stopped smoking...
Sometimes I reward myself by doing absolutely nothing and being perfectly content with that.
Even the bad days are great days compared to the old days.
Oh man I love this thread lol. I have been rewarding myself as well. As a matter of fact, today I got myself a new pair of cute running shoes (granted, mine were literally falling apart but still- while drinking I wasn't even using them lol). I've also been using groupon and living social- love them!! The pampering thing is so true... I just bought a gel manicure kit with the LED light for 30 bucks on living social; SO excited for it to arrive in the mail!!
I think it's important to treat ourselves for the work we're doing... while it's necessary it's also SO difficult.
I think it's important to treat ourselves for the work we're doing... while it's necessary it's also SO difficult.
Right now, yes, I think about rewards. Tonight, for example, I had to do a bit of shopping, and the last second I turned downt the candy isle and dropped a bag of reeses into my cart. I really do try and avoid candy, but these days, working on the early stages of sobriety, it's all hands on deck, do what I gotta do. My goal, my vision of my future mind set is to have sobriety itself be the reward--that's not my line, someone here at SR taught me that, but I'm ripping it off
Skinny Cow chocolate covered cherry cones. I think I've had one every night of my sobriety so far. I'm nervous b/c they say "limited edition" on them. Not sure what I'll replace them with once they're gone. Right now ice cream is just so dang comforting.
Something else I just thought of is that I don't even think it's necessarily rewarding ourselves as much as taking care of & being nice to ourselves. At least for me, I know that I was definitely not nice to myself when drinking nor did I take good care of myself. Now that I'm clean, I'm working on being nice to me again
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I'm two weeks sober, so I can't say I'm drawing on a body of knowledge and experience, BUT I have noticed two things in terms of rewards. The first is that my life in general across the board is happier and healthier and each day I find a new reward it seems. Tonight I found myself at 9PM playing with toy cars and launching them down a toy ramp with my 15 month old daughter while she giggled away. The second is that there is more money all of a sudden in the bank account!!! I upgraded my phone today without worrying how I wouldn't have money for booze. The other day we bought winter tires for the car and I didn't have to worry about the booze budget. So for me, the rewards kind of just happen. I don't go out of my way to say in my head that I should be rewarded. But this is just what works for me... it might not make any sense at all to some people! Do what you feel works!
I rewarded myself with a new wardrobe. I neglected my clothing over the years since I didn't like to be bothered to leave the house on weekends. Pretty much everything needed to be upgraded. I trickled in new items with each personal milestone I reached. After awhile, people at work started to comment on how much better I looked both physically and in my presentation.
Same here! I was just thinking about that today. I went out to my freezer and thought to myself "Wow! I sure do own a lot of ice cream!" haha. Now that my sweet tooth has waned as well, I'm stocked for quite some time!
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