marselles

Hey! Hello? I'm really new to all this. Is there anybody out there? help?? Am I putting this message in the right place? ..................... anyone? hellooooo?

Dee74

Hi Marselles

this is the forum area of the website - not as real time as chat, but still busy.
You get a lot of responses here

what brings you to SR?

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Try18

Welcome to Sober Recovery

marselles

Ha! Magic! I guess I'm just reaching out.

PurpleKnight

Always a few people kicking around at all times of the day/night!! . . . plus as it's your first post, the "newcomer" section is probably an appropriate place to start!!

marselles

Ok.thx. what occurs here then?

Hevyn

Welcome to SR Marselles! We're glad to meet you - you found a great place for support.

Dee74

Generally people tell us a little about what bought them here to Sober Recovery...if you have any questions this is a good place to share them too

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marselles

I'm ten months at a day at a time. I've a pretty broad recovery capital where I live but felt Iwas struggling tonight. So thought I'd search for like-minded people who are awake when it's midnight here! Today, someone who appeared to be doing well following treatment told me they were having suicidal thoughts. This was at the break outsidefrom a meeting. When I later told them I felt I had to safeguard them andc share myconcerns they hit me with a tirade of abuse accusing me of blowing their anonymity. I just let it affect me. Just not using no matter what right now!

PurpleKnight

Congrats on the 10 months!!

Yeah SR is a great place, plenty of UK members as well as those from all around the world, so someone will be active somewhere around the clock!

Raider

Did you attempt to talk to this person about what they meant by suicidal thoughts?

marselles

Thanks. But I can't take all the credit - I wouldn't be able to do this on my own steam! I have help. Took me 25 years to realise that recovery was an option!

marselles

Yeah raider. He was nothing like his usual self. I spoke to a member of staff. The guy is living in treatment housing. His whole demeanor was out of kilter. I couldn't have lived with myself if I hadn't sought help and something had happened.

melody196365

The first step is always the hardest admitting one is powerless to alcohol is a big step...as much as you wont want to hear this you have to place you first and foremost Marselles and ensure you are safe resist the urge to rescue someone else its your subconscious alcoholic working ways to bring you back to drinking...look after you hun and nurture the strength you have decided to build be protective of that and seek all of us for comfort and assurance you are doing the right thing for you and your life because I believe you are and are worthy of far better than what you have accepted for yourself. big hugs to you for sharing.

awuh1

I think you did the right thing! Better safe than the alternative with that sort of thing. I bet he/she comes to see it that way in the end also.

least

to SR! We're glad you're here.

KateL

I'm awake in London/ I'm a bit of an insomniac Glad you are well

marselles

thanks for all your feedback. melody I appreciatewhat you say about ego. You know what... I think you're right that I need to keep it in check although I don't think there was an alternative here. I learned the dangers of rescuing some time ago when I took a relapse ball to my flat. It went quite pete tong.

marselles

Im in empathetic insomnia tonight. Could've done with this place last night when my neighbour was revisiting his happy-hardcore days All Night!

marselles

What a healthy way to fix feelings this is! Thanks so much all. I wish you well. Gonna give sleeping a try- early start 8 /