need advice
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need advice
I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years but have known him for 32 years. He is an alcoholic and has recently become more mentally and emotionally abusive. He has never been physical, but it hurts just as much. He makes me feel worthless, blames me for everything, and I have never felt this bad about myself in my whole life. I want to finally end things, but have to live with him till our lease is up. I have a 10 year old son who has been affected by this more than I ever realized and I just need some advice on how to handle the situation until I can finally be done with him.
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Hi hazelangelgj33 - welcome 
You'll find a lot of support and understanding here
I also recommend you look at our Family and Friends of Alcoholics forum - there are some really useful posts & links for you to read at the top of the forum, like this one:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...out-abuse.html
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You'll find a lot of support and understanding here
I also recommend you look at our Family and Friends of Alcoholics forum - there are some really useful posts & links for you to read at the top of the forum, like this one:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...out-abuse.html
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Hi Hazel, just wishing you well. How long is left on your lease? Is there anyone you could stay with and still pay your part of the rent? You and your sons health is vital, and you can never under estimate the damage of psychological abuse, worse in some respects than physycal. Never allow yourself to believe you are worthless, that is his pathetic way of trying to hang on to you. Get out as soon as humanly possible. X
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Join Date: May 2013
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Sorry fir your situation, getting outside support will be crucial. The best advise that I can give is to start loving you, without self love no relationship will ever work. Be strong and take care of you and your son!
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I once asked a landlord to end a lease early because of a living situation, and they did...almost 8 months early. So, it may be possible. If you post this on the Friends and Family of Alcoholics thread asking for help, there will likely be others who have a very practical suggestions for getting your life back quickly.
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