Temporary relocation
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Temporary relocation
Has anyone ever have experience with relocating to a new place in recovery? Does it help? I have mentioned this to therapists and to other people at 12 step meetings. The answer is usually along the lines of "You are only running away from your problems", "Wherever you go, there you are".
But it seems like I just cant live where I'm living in anymore. I live at home with my parents and they fight everyday and this home is a mess. The holidays are coming and it's just about to get worse. I feel so much better when I'm away from home. Besides, I'm 23 already and it seeems like I should be living in my own place. Does anyone have any thoughts?
But it seems like I just cant live where I'm living in anymore. I live at home with my parents and they fight everyday and this home is a mess. The holidays are coming and it's just about to get worse. I feel so much better when I'm away from home. Besides, I'm 23 already and it seeems like I should be living in my own place. Does anyone have any thoughts?
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Wow, I'm surprised with the answers! I was expecting criticism.
I forgot to say, though, that I plan to move to a place that is about 15 miles away from here so I will not be able to come back so often (probably only twice a week) to see my dogs. I'm the one to take them to walks
This is kinda making me feel guilty
I forgot to say, though, that I plan to move to a place that is about 15 miles away from here so I will not be able to come back so often (probably only twice a week) to see my dogs. I'm the one to take them to walks
This is kinda making me feel guilty
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I think moving to a new place is perfectly fine. I'm not sure if you mean a nearby place. I feel like moving to a new city or somewhere faraway can make one vulnerable to a relapse. Being in a environment where no one knows your history, etc. may make some open to trying to go back out and drink. Just have your tool box ready and do whatever it takes to not fall into that old life that you worked so hard to get away from.
The worst relapse I could imagine came when I turned my back on my support group and moved 5 states away. That being said, I agree with the others that say move out of your folks place.
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Good Luck,
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There is what's known as the geographical cure where people move thinking that living in a new location will, without effort, solve all their problems. That does not sound at all like what you are looking for.
Back in the dark ages, I used to live with three roommates who drank and drugged all day long. It only made sense to move, and I did, and it was great for me. Go for it!
Back in the dark ages, I used to live with three roommates who drank and drugged all day long. It only made sense to move, and I did, and it was great for me. Go for it!
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If not, I would still put your own welfare above that of the dogs.
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In theory, I agree with moving if the friction at home is damaging your recovery. But, what are your plans for your pets? It could come up as an issue for arguments/pressure.
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The dogs are actually my parent's. They take care of them. The only thing that I do really is taking them for walks.
I moved because of my husband's job, in the first week of recovery. It was a long-distance move and English was not the first language in the new city. Since I couldn't speak the language, I looked for volunteer work and found a great opportunity. It turned out to be the best thing I could have done.
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