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Old 11-18-2013, 12:56 AM
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Guess whos back...

Well, you guys were right, tried moderation and it didnt work, after a couple of months of handling my drinking it eventually increased. Im gonna try this again, thanks for having me back.
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Old 11-18-2013, 01:02 AM
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Welcome back! I have 3 decades of failing to learn how to moderate.
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Old 11-18-2013, 01:10 AM
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Lessons in moderation were tough for me. easier in theory than in practice
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Old 11-18-2013, 01:24 AM
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Welcome back, i'm glad you are trying again.
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Old 11-18-2013, 01:29 AM
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Welcome back, looking4awagon I'm sorry that moderation didn't work for you, but glad that you've had the strength of character to come back and try again. Your story will definitely help others - and helps me whenever that tiny voice starts nagging
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Old 11-18-2013, 01:31 AM
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Old 11-18-2013, 01:40 AM
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Yeah moderation doesnt work for me either!!!
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Old 11-18-2013, 01:53 AM
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Old 11-18-2013, 03:29 AM
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I once succeeded so well at moderation for three months that I celebrated conquering alcohol for the next 3 1/2 years by having beer for breakfast every morning.

Hungover and/or drunk all the time, but I had overcome my addiction as long as I had enough to last until the liqour stores opened the next morning.

Addicted? Not me. I can MODERATE. Addiction is for alcoholics. It doesn't apply to someone like me that can control their drinking.

Welcome back looking4awagon!
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Old 11-18-2013, 03:31 AM
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Welcome back, use you experience with moderation to push you through abstinence!

Glad to have you back
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Old 11-18-2013, 05:46 AM
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Yep moderation never worked for me, ever. Welcome back X
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Old 11-18-2013, 06:02 AM
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If I didn't like/want/desire the feeling of intoxication so much , I could probably moderate/control my intake and keep it at normal/acceptable levels. But then it wouldn't be moderating my intake , it would just be 'normal' drinking. It took my a long time to 'fess up' , not so much in a public sense but more being truly honest with myself and acknowledging how much I liked being intoxicated. The costs for that enjoyment are too high, proportional to the desire. For me I choose to abstain.
Don't Want To Be Drunk, that's how I picked the screenname. I don't want to be drunk, and some times I don't want to want to be drunk. As far as drinking , aside from wanting, I won't.
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Old 11-18-2013, 08:09 AM
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I've met a few people who tapering worked for. But never a person that moderating worked for. We can work our way down to not drinking at all but ultimately the only thing that works for us is...not drinking at all.

Most of us find cold turkey the only real answer.

Glad you found the wagon! Stick around and we'll help you stay on!
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Old 11-18-2013, 08:38 AM
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I don't know that this is a matter of getting it "right" so much as it is reading the handwriting on the wall. From the many, many comments I've read around attempting moderation, I've yet to see a single person here celebrate being successful at it as a long-term solution. Many come back needing support...which is a good thing...and many more simply disappear.

One person wrote his daily drinking schedule in advance for a couple of weeks or so and the rationale behind it...a very lengthy comment that I stuck with until my eyes glazed over. He insisted that his plan was rational, well thought out and afforded him the best possibility for success. Haven't heard from him since. Other people came back reporting that they brought a whole new world of hurt into their lives as a result of attempting moderation.

It seems to me that by the time you make it to SR, moderation is no longer an option. I never attempted it because that's not the way I drank. I do appreciate that most of us will hang on to our drinking at any cost, but it seems like unnecessary suffering to me, particularly when compared to abstinence.
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