gofred123

Does anyone have any experience in a "control Seperation" program.

Now with things settling down, plans made to separate my wife and I are exploring a "controlled Seperation" from the book "Do I Go or Do I Stay"

AA has got me back on track in handling emotional issues after returning full time back in September and true emotions are creeping out slowly, very slowly, and we may want to try everything before we call it quits.

Any advise would be appreciated

Freebird13

I don't know what a control separation is. Can you give more details about it?

Dee74

I've never heard of it either - I googled it but I'm still none the wiser to be honest.

welcome anyway Fred

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Anna

I'm not sure what it means either, but I hope you find some peace in your relationship.

Joe Nerv

Might as well make this unanimous.

Though I'll add... whenever the word 'control' comes up, my caution lights start blinking.

NoelleR

Try searching with the term 'controlled separation'

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NoelleR

wheresthefun

Holy Mackerel, I kid you not, I did that with the exception of it being actually written down on paper. Maybe that's why it didn't work!

ImperfectlyMe

Googling!

Conclusion:
Sounds like a well thought plan if divorce is on the table. Good luck, update us on the happenings

gofred123

We set the control separation contract in rough form tonight. We will see how we finalize over the next couple weeks. Our separation is set for mid December

Thanks for the interest and posts

Taking5

I have heard the term "trial separation" before. Trial for what? To see if one of you can live without the other? To give time for the lawyers to run up your legal bills before the real divorce begins?

choublak

I googled it and from what I gather, it's where you and your spouse live apart but still "date" each other?

Renarde

I had friends who separated for 1-2 months. Total separation. Planned and overseen by a therapist. The husband moved back in and they are better than ever.