Please help me accept.
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Please help me accept.
WE ADMITTED WE WERE POWERLESS OVER THE ADDICT - THAT OUR LIVES HAD BECOME UNMANAGEABLE.
It is taking me a long time to accept this. My son a marijuana addict has been struggling with addiction for over 3 years now. He has now dropped out of university. I asked him to leave home in February, after a family row over his using. A let him in briefly in June after he ran out of money but he relapsed within 2 weeks and left again. He has moved back home again a month ago and went to detox for a few days and joined a day program. He relapsed again. He is trying again for the last couple of days. Will he succeed? Every time he tries and relapses it just feels terrible.
What does acceptance mean? Do we stop trying to get them into treatment? Please share what finally made you accept that you are powerless over your addicted loved one.
It is taking me a long time to accept this. My son a marijuana addict has been struggling with addiction for over 3 years now. He has now dropped out of university. I asked him to leave home in February, after a family row over his using. A let him in briefly in June after he ran out of money but he relapsed within 2 weeks and left again. He has moved back home again a month ago and went to detox for a few days and joined a day program. He relapsed again. He is trying again for the last couple of days. Will he succeed? Every time he tries and relapses it just feels terrible.
What does acceptance mean? Do we stop trying to get them into treatment? Please share what finally made you accept that you are powerless over your addicted loved one.
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I'm going to suggest this blog and specifically this entry. I have found a great deal of serenity and include it in my program.
al-anon journal: Turn it Over
http://http://www.alanonjournal.com/...n-it-over.html
al-anon journal: Turn it Over
http://http://www.alanonjournal.com/...n-it-over.html
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Thanks.
It’s going to take acceptance and surrender to break out of that small place I have locked myself into for safety’s sake. It’s going to take trust. Only then will I allow myself to be led by something less limiting than my own fear. It doesn’t matter if I understand exactly what this “higher power” is or not. It only matters that I acknowledge, accept and surrender to the fact that I am not it.
I may not be in control of the universe, but I am able to consciously make decisions that override the places that my emotions want to take me.
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I work on step 1 daily! It is never finally achieved. Just when I think it is, some new crisis pops up and I find myself trying to take control again and fix it. So maybe think of it as progress, not perfection. Try every day to accept the fact that he is an addict and that he is not going to get well from anything you do.
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