Little things that make big difference.
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Little things that make big difference.
Hi, SR mates.
On my sobriety journey I've started to pay attention to all the little things that make big difference. I am glad when I can see any little shift to better thinking and perception .
Here's my Saturday-Sunday story)
Well, you probably know the way Murphy's law works. 11 p.m. Everything's fine , time to brush teeth and go to bed. And out of the blue the drain of the sink is gummed up. I mean, not just a little, but water doesn't move at all - it's just still like smooth surface of the lake on a windless day.
While thinking over what to do, I caught myself comparing my "drinking" and sober way of dealing with little (and not so little) issues.
Here's two cases. So, 11 p.m. gummed up drain, and course of actions:
Case 1. Drinking scenario:
- "Heavy duty" cursing - WTF is just a warm up;
- Special occasion-heavy-duty-cursing appeal to all the possible high powers and recitation of all the misfortunes they've been showering on me from the hour I was born;
- "I need glass of wine to relax and think over how to fix it";
- Having a glass of wine and hoping that water in the sink will change its mind and make its way through. It doesn't;
- Having another glass of wine, looking at the sink, giving water another chance to change its mind.
- Making a "wine-wise" decision that I'd better take counsel of my pillow and invite another glass of wine for better counseling;
- Waking up next day hangover, in a terrible mood, hoping that by some PFM (Pure F. Magic) water's gone. No PFM - water's quite stubborn;
- Developing a chain of bulletproof logical reasonings - gummed up drain= my life is miserable.
- Finally fixing it (cursing and freaking out all the way) and rewarding myself with a certain amount of wine to make my life less miserable.
Summary: Miserable drama Sunday
Case 2. Sober scenario
- "Light part" of my cursing vocabulary - just WTF;
- Scratching my head;
- A pair of rubber gloves;
- Half an hour to make three attempts to clean up the drain pipe:
- A bit better, there are some signs of whirpool in the sink, but still gummed up;
- Another WTF;
- Scratching my head again=bulb moment- Tomorrow I will buy a drain cleaner and it should help;
- Having a good sleep. Waking up early. Taking care of a lot of things. Bought a drain cleaner. While it is doing its PFM I am taking care of other things;
- 2 hours later PFM is done, water is running through the drain like a mountain river;
- Off to gym , great workout, then a cup of coffee and a nice chat with a friend. Back home. Sipping tea and rewarding myself with my fav treatment - reading on SR)
Summary: Great productive Sunday.
Little things - but they make a Big Good Day)
Best wishes to all.
Have a great sober Sunday.
On my sobriety journey I've started to pay attention to all the little things that make big difference. I am glad when I can see any little shift to better thinking and perception .
Here's my Saturday-Sunday story)
Well, you probably know the way Murphy's law works. 11 p.m. Everything's fine , time to brush teeth and go to bed. And out of the blue the drain of the sink is gummed up. I mean, not just a little, but water doesn't move at all - it's just still like smooth surface of the lake on a windless day.
While thinking over what to do, I caught myself comparing my "drinking" and sober way of dealing with little (and not so little) issues.
Here's two cases. So, 11 p.m. gummed up drain, and course of actions:
Case 1. Drinking scenario:
- "Heavy duty" cursing - WTF is just a warm up;
- Special occasion-heavy-duty-cursing appeal to all the possible high powers and recitation of all the misfortunes they've been showering on me from the hour I was born;
- "I need glass of wine to relax and think over how to fix it";
- Having a glass of wine and hoping that water in the sink will change its mind and make its way through. It doesn't;
- Having another glass of wine, looking at the sink, giving water another chance to change its mind.
- Making a "wine-wise" decision that I'd better take counsel of my pillow and invite another glass of wine for better counseling;
- Waking up next day hangover, in a terrible mood, hoping that by some PFM (Pure F. Magic) water's gone. No PFM - water's quite stubborn;
- Developing a chain of bulletproof logical reasonings - gummed up drain= my life is miserable.
- Finally fixing it (cursing and freaking out all the way) and rewarding myself with a certain amount of wine to make my life less miserable.
Summary: Miserable drama Sunday
Case 2. Sober scenario
- "Light part" of my cursing vocabulary - just WTF;
- Scratching my head;
- A pair of rubber gloves;
- Half an hour to make three attempts to clean up the drain pipe:
- A bit better, there are some signs of whirpool in the sink, but still gummed up;
- Another WTF;
- Scratching my head again=bulb moment- Tomorrow I will buy a drain cleaner and it should help;
- Having a good sleep. Waking up early. Taking care of a lot of things. Bought a drain cleaner. While it is doing its PFM I am taking care of other things;
- 2 hours later PFM is done, water is running through the drain like a mountain river;
- Off to gym , great workout, then a cup of coffee and a nice chat with a friend. Back home. Sipping tea and rewarding myself with my fav treatment - reading on SR)
Summary: Great productive Sunday.
Little things - but they make a Big Good Day)
Best wishes to all.
Have a great sober Sunday.
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Thanks for the story! It amazes me too how I now deal with things much easier and without all the drama. It took me a while to realize that I didn't need to make a big production out of every little thing. It was such a habit! Still not singing my way through a toilee that won't flush, but not poppin blood vessels over it either!
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