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i am pissed off, my husband who i married 8 weeks ago, has decided that sharing isnt good enough, when i told him i was upset by one of his txt to me today he has blown up and is now ignoring me, hes upstairs and im sat down here with my 1 empty bottle of wine and i am desprate to go and buy more, but he has made me feel bad because i wanted to explain why he had upset me in a sharing time and he has just got angry, i am v upset and dont know quite how to resolve it but go and but nore drink, which incidentally would nean me drinking and driving
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we try to share our feelings and not have the other interrupt, so if im upset he should listen and hen he can can me why he is upset about why i am upset, all non aggressive or argumentative, but as soon as i spoke he was mean and wouldnt listen and as i hadnt had a drink then i was calm, now im furious and after finishing the wine, i want more cos im so mad
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I'm only speaking from my own experience--I've been married nearly 18 years and during that time my drinking increased. We went from rarely fighting to having many disagreements, These were the worst when both of us were drinking, but to be honest, I got to be a meaner and meaner drunk and nearly destroyed my marriage. Booze and relationships generally don't make a good match. Since this is an alcoholism site, I'm guessing you think you may have a problem with alcohol--is that the case?
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i am an alchoholic, and am waiting for medical detox, i cant afford to pay for it and im at aa meetings at least 3 times a week, i am just so confused
should i go and try to talk to him before i open the champagne
should i go and try to talk to him before i open the champagne
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I can understand why you are upset if he didn't let you finish. Was there something that happened that may have caused him to get mean? Sometimes people do things in the heat of the moment that they wouldn't do normally.
I know alcohol can take the edge off for awhile, but I don't think more wine will help this situation improve from what you've told me. What about doing something else like taking a shower or making some tea or coffee? Your sharing how you feel about his interruption would most likely go better if you were sober. What do you think?
I know alcohol can take the edge off for awhile, but I don't think more wine will help this situation improve from what you've told me. What about doing something else like taking a shower or making some tea or coffee? Your sharing how you feel about his interruption would most likely go better if you were sober. What do you think?
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