hey everyone
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hey everyone
hi first of all english is not my first language, german is so sorry if i make some mistakes.
well honestly i am not really sure how to start this but i mainly signed up coz i lately have been finding myself in a place where i wanna be sober so bad but at the same time i have been scared of it? for one scared of the unknown but on the other hand also reallyscared of failing because in the past when i tried to quit the maximum amount of days i was ever able to stay away were 8 days because in the past i always ended up telling myself my problem isn't even that bad that i am not actually an alcoholic just for me to find myself thrown back at step 0 the next morning. and i don't want this to happen anymore i really want this to be my last day 1. and i also hope that this scared feeling i have will leave over time or at least become smaller.
well however nice to meet you (:
well honestly i am not really sure how to start this but i mainly signed up coz i lately have been finding myself in a place where i wanna be sober so bad but at the same time i have been scared of it? for one scared of the unknown but on the other hand also reallyscared of failing because in the past when i tried to quit the maximum amount of days i was ever able to stay away were 8 days because in the past i always ended up telling myself my problem isn't even that bad that i am not actually an alcoholic just for me to find myself thrown back at step 0 the next morning. and i don't want this to happen anymore i really want this to be my last day 1. and i also hope that this scared feeling i have will leave over time or at least become smaller.
well however nice to meet you (:
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Welcome! I honor and respect your courage in signing up and posting! Bravo!!
Many times the devil we know is better (in our minds) than the devil we don't.
You are in a normal place for people like us. I too was once too afraid to remain the same, yet terrified to move forward into recovery. AA helped a lot with that. I found acceptance, found out I wasn't alone and began to build my recovery.... best of everything to you!
Many times the devil we know is better (in our minds) than the devil we don't.
You are in a normal place for people like us. I too was once too afraid to remain the same, yet terrified to move forward into recovery. AA helped a lot with that. I found acceptance, found out I wasn't alone and began to build my recovery.... best of everything to you!
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Hi Kain!
Your English is better than my German.
It doesn't matter if you are an alcoholic or not. If drinking is messing up your life you might want to do something about it.
It is scary to think about not drinking ever again. That is why many just think about not drinking for the next 24 hrs. And then they make the same decision the next day.
Why don't you pick some arbitrary time to stay sober, say 30 days, and see how you feel then?
I'll let others tell you about all the amazing programs that are out there to help you. I like posting her when I feel a little blue.
Your English is better than my German.
It doesn't matter if you are an alcoholic or not. If drinking is messing up your life you might want to do something about it.
It is scary to think about not drinking ever again. That is why many just think about not drinking for the next 24 hrs. And then they make the same decision the next day.
Why don't you pick some arbitrary time to stay sober, say 30 days, and see how you feel then?
I'll let others tell you about all the amazing programs that are out there to help you. I like posting her when I feel a little blue.
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Welcome to SR, kian. The good people here have been a wonderful source of support and information, especially during the early days of my sobriety. I hope you will read the forums and post often. Good luck. I am glad you are here with us. 
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Originally Posted by 575 
Welcome! I honor and respect your courage in signing up and posting! Bravo!!
Many times the devil we know is better (in our minds) than the devil we don't.
You are in a normal place for people like us. I too was once too afraid to remain the same, yet terrified to move forward into recovery. AA helped a lot with that. I found acceptance, found out I wasn't alone and began to build my recovery.... best of everything to you!
Many times the devil we know is better (in our minds) than the devil we don't.
You are in a normal place for people like us. I too was once too afraid to remain the same, yet terrified to move forward into recovery. AA helped a lot with that. I found acceptance, found out I wasn't alone and began to build my recovery.... best of everything to you!
Originally Posted by ru12
Hi Kain!
Your English is better than my German.
It doesn't matter if you are an alcoholic or not. If drinking is messing up your life you might want to do something about it.
It is scary to think about not drinking ever again. That is why many just think about not drinking for the next 24 hrs. And then they make the same decision the next day.
Why don't you pick some arbitrary time to stay sober, say 30 days, and see how you feel then?
I'll let others tell you about all the amazing programs that are out there to help you. I like posting her when I feel a little blue.
Your English is better than my German.
It doesn't matter if you are an alcoholic or not. If drinking is messing up your life you might want to do something about it.
It is scary to think about not drinking ever again. That is why many just think about not drinking for the next 24 hrs. And then they make the same decision the next day.
Why don't you pick some arbitrary time to stay sober, say 30 days, and see how you feel then?
I'll let others tell you about all the amazing programs that are out there to help you. I like posting her when I feel a little blue.
thank you for you comment and advice as well i do think that it actually might take pressure of my shoulders if i set goals that are achieved at a certain date like 1 month for example and be proud of that but also let it be like a motivation i think? while 'forever' never ends although i do want that to be the goal in the long shot
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Hi Kian!
Glad you joined the site. I too am sick of having so many day 1's. Today is now my day 2 and I am scared b/c it is the weekend and b/c lately after 2 days I tell myself the same thing "well my problem isn't that bad" and then I start to drink again and I feel horrible. You may not be an alcoholic but like someone else said, if you think alcohol is affecting your life in a negative way then why not try to give it up for a little bit and see how you feel? I'm setting small term goals....even smaller then "I won't drink for the day" I have moments where I tell myself "just get through the next hour"
This is a great place to get non-judgemental support. Glad you joined!
Glad you joined the site. I too am sick of having so many day 1's. Today is now my day 2 and I am scared b/c it is the weekend and b/c lately after 2 days I tell myself the same thing "well my problem isn't that bad" and then I start to drink again and I feel horrible. You may not be an alcoholic but like someone else said, if you think alcohol is affecting your life in a negative way then why not try to give it up for a little bit and see how you feel? I'm setting small term goals....even smaller then "I won't drink for the day" I have moments where I tell myself "just get through the next hour"
This is a great place to get non-judgemental support. Glad you joined!
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Originally Posted by kian
hi first of all english is not my first language, german is so sorry if i make some mistakes.
well honestly i am not really sure how to start this but i mainly signed up coz i lately have been finding myself in a place where i wanna be sober so bad but at the same time i have been scared of it? for one scared of the unknown but on the other hand also reallyscared of failing because in the past when i tried to quit the maximum amount of days i was ever able to stay away were 8 days because in the past i always ended up telling myself my problem isn't even that bad that i am not actually an alcoholic just for me to find myself thrown back at step 0 the next morning. and i don't want this to happen anymore i really want this to be my last day 1. and i also hope that this scared feeling i have will leave over time or at least become smaller.
well however nice to meet you (:
well honestly i am not really sure how to start this but i mainly signed up coz i lately have been finding myself in a place where i wanna be sober so bad but at the same time i have been scared of it? for one scared of the unknown but on the other hand also reallyscared of failing because in the past when i tried to quit the maximum amount of days i was ever able to stay away were 8 days because in the past i always ended up telling myself my problem isn't even that bad that i am not actually an alcoholic just for me to find myself thrown back at step 0 the next morning. and i don't want this to happen anymore i really want this to be my last day 1. and i also hope that this scared feeling i have will leave over time or at least become smaller.
well however nice to meet you (:
to SR! I'm glad you found us and joined the family. You've come to a great place for support in quitting drinking. 
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Welcome Kian, making the decision to stop drinking and get sober is scary. I think everyone here has felt that way. Sobriety is worth it though. Taking it one day at a time and not thinking too far ahead helped me get and stay sober for over a year now. You will find lots of support here. Glad you have joined us. 
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Originally Posted by RightLAine
Hi Kian!
Glad you joined the site. I too am sick of having so many day 1's. Today is now my day 2 and I am scared b/c it is the weekend and b/c lately after 2 days I tell myself the same thing "well my problem isn't that bad" and then I start to drink again and I feel horrible. You may not be an alcoholic but like someone else said, if you think alcohol is affecting your life in a negative way then why not try to give it up for a little bit and see how you feel? I'm setting small term goals....even smaller then "I won't drink for the day" I have moments where I tell myself "just get through the next hour"
This is a great place to get non-judgemental support. Glad you joined!
Glad you joined the site. I too am sick of having so many day 1's. Today is now my day 2 and I am scared b/c it is the weekend and b/c lately after 2 days I tell myself the same thing "well my problem isn't that bad" and then I start to drink again and I feel horrible. You may not be an alcoholic but like someone else said, if you think alcohol is affecting your life in a negative way then why not try to give it up for a little bit and see how you feel? I'm setting small term goals....even smaller then "I won't drink for the day" I have moments where I tell myself "just get through the next hour"
This is a great place to get non-judgemental support. Glad you joined!
i start to see why taking smaller steps and wait how it goes seems to be a smarter option especially now.
Originally Posted by Uninvited
HI Kian. Welcome. I understood you just fine.
Originally Posted by firstymer
Welcome to SR, kian. The good people here have been a wonderful source of support and information, especially during the early days of my sobriety. I hope you will read the forums and post often. Good luck. I am glad you are here with us.
ok somehow i can only quote three ppl at once
@least @headlump thank you and i am glad to be here
@hayley86 hey first of all congrats for making it to over a year
and even though i don't want other people to be in a bad place it feels somehow good to know that there are people that can relate to those feelings to be honest
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