Alcoholic father
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Alcoholic father
Not sure where to put this, im sure it'll get moved if if its not the right place.
Anywho.
I'll admit i'm an alcoholic but my dad has drank a lot all my life and has convinced himself he doesn't have a problem.
The other day he told me how he is happy to go.
he's not even 60 yet.
He want's to go whilst he's still happy.
I was shocked, it was so flippant like he's made up his mind, he's not in the best of health, i've tried to talk to him about the benefits of lifestyle changes and he just laughs and says he just wants to enjoy his last few years.
Last year he couldn't even walk, I think he had a seizure from alcohol, his legs were already numb. I convinced him to drink isotonic drinks and b vitamins. He was even hospitalised for severe dehydration cus he never drinks water.
Sorry just a rant and reflecting.
Anywho.
I'll admit i'm an alcoholic but my dad has drank a lot all my life and has convinced himself he doesn't have a problem.
The other day he told me how he is happy to go.
he's not even 60 yet.
He want's to go whilst he's still happy.
I was shocked, it was so flippant like he's made up his mind, he's not in the best of health, i've tried to talk to him about the benefits of lifestyle changes and he just laughs and says he just wants to enjoy his last few years.
Last year he couldn't even walk, I think he had a seizure from alcohol, his legs were already numb. I convinced him to drink isotonic drinks and b vitamins. He was even hospitalised for severe dehydration cus he never drinks water.
Sorry just a rant and reflecting.
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He lives in a different country... gone from a man earning loads as a director to a caravan.
I asked him to send me his blood results be he claimed he lost them and is ill health was because of an infection... nothing to do with drinking litres of wine + spirits everday.
He starts about 2pm on beer... moves onto wine and by 9pm is on the whiskey.
Overheard him say (he stayed here a couple days) 'no one drinks or smokes its boring'
I asked him to send me his blood results be he claimed he lost them and is ill health was because of an infection... nothing to do with drinking litres of wine + spirits everday.
He starts about 2pm on beer... moves onto wine and by 9pm is on the whiskey.
Overheard him say (he stayed here a couple days) 'no one drinks or smokes its boring'
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Originally Posted by Dee74 
I'm sorry Twinings - that has to be rough for you.
Have you checked out our Family and Friends forums as well?
You'll find a lot of support and understanding down there too
D
Have you checked out our Family and Friends forums as well?
You'll find a lot of support and understanding down there too
D
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Are there any family members that live close to him, that you could confide in? As I'm sure you know, he really needs to want help 
Maybe if he realised how good YOUR life is becoming without booze, it might just make him think? x
Maybe if he realised how good YOUR life is becoming without booze, it might just make him think? x
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No family close to where he stays.
His brother is dying... grim
Proper working class deprivation = smoking and drinking too much.
I've stepped away, he says im an opinionated hippy like its a bad thing but im glad i found out about nutrition and health... still struggle with sobriety but atleast im trying.
I've tried to talk to him several times... This time was the first time we hung out and I said no thanks to the booze! He is very narrow minded... won't even listen when I explain why i eat a plant based diet. Repeats the same stories over and over...
its sad
His brother is dying... grim
Proper working class deprivation = smoking and drinking too much.
I've stepped away, he says im an opinionated hippy like its a bad thing but im glad i found out about nutrition and health... still struggle with sobriety but atleast im trying.
I've tried to talk to him several times... This time was the first time we hung out and I said no thanks to the booze! He is very narrow minded... won't even listen when I explain why i eat a plant based diet. Repeats the same stories over and over...
its sad
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I wish my mother would get a bit of that happy feeling your dad has.
She was in her late 50s when I sobered up. She is now 90 and has spent that whole period, more than thirty years, fighting and hating everything and everyone. She hates the whole family with a passion, she is just a seething pit of resentment, blaming evryone else for her troubles. She is drunk everyday and wants to die. We are all amazed that she is still alive, and can only conclude this is so because God doesn't want her.
She has had plenty of opportunities to recover, been through two extensive treatments, but doesn't want a bar of it. It would be so nice if she could just be a happy drunk.
She was in her late 50s when I sobered up. She is now 90 and has spent that whole period, more than thirty years, fighting and hating everything and everyone. She hates the whole family with a passion, she is just a seething pit of resentment, blaming evryone else for her troubles. She is drunk everyday and wants to die. We are all amazed that she is still alive, and can only conclude this is so because God doesn't want her.
She has had plenty of opportunities to recover, been through two extensive treatments, but doesn't want a bar of it. It would be so nice if she could just be a happy drunk.
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