croydonlad

I read this in today's paper so found the online version.

The article on the link below doesn't apply directly to alcohol but could certainly be applied and I can see how it would be helpful.

Have a read and see what you think...

This column will change your life: don't say 'I can't' if you can say 'I don't' | Life and style | The Guardian

Newatthis34

How funny!! I was just reading the same article less than an hour ago in the magazine supplement and thought to myself what a useful way to approach lots of things, but particularly sobriety. Good stuff!

croydonlad

Yeah! Sobriety, smoking, diet. Loads of things.

I love The Guardian magazine on a Saturday.

HeadLump

Thanks, croydonlad, a very useful article

croydonlad

No problem

Delilah1

Thanks, I am going to try the little "I don't..." Experiment this week.

I don't drink alcohol.

Acheleus

I don't drink alcohol. Yes.

Thank you!

13unluckyforsom

You don't you can't - you won't

DarkDays

Nice article, thanks for sharing.

wolfpackfan45

Thanks! I'm going to try it with my diet this week.

croydonlad

It seems like a good idea to me.

Saying "I can't" makes me feel like I am being told to do something and makes me think: "We'll, why can't I?!" This makes me think negatively.

Saying "I don't" makes me feel as if I am in control and not like I'm being told to do something by someone else. This makes me feel more positive and less pressurised and, to me, makes it easier to say no.

This may help if applied to alcohol.

croydonlad

Well, not just alcohol either! Chocolate, coffee, cigarettes. Anything.

FeenixxRising

Thanks Croydon. It was an interesting piece. The idea of using "don't" over "can't" makes a lot of sense.

CaiHong

Thanks Croydon,

Thinking about it, there is a ton of difference between, I can't and I don't.

I am going to give this a try in some other areas of my life that need tweaking.

caiHong