Promise or guarantee
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Promise or guarantee
This will be short and to the point. I want to so badly guarantee that I will never drink again, both to myself and others. I have not had a drink in about 4 yrs as of 10/10/2009. The commitment though is still there for me to do this and yet who knows what the future holds. I don't know how to ease every ones minds about me not relapsing, including myself.
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Nice to meet you, afknight 
So glad you joined the site.
4 years is amazing, absolutely brilliant - and an achievement that many of us here can only dream about.
You must have learnt some great techniques or had strong support to make it so far. Has something happened recently to make you lose confidence in your sobriety? Could it be that the looming anniversary is playing on your mind?
You'll find lots of wisdom and support here
So glad you joined the site.4 years is amazing, absolutely brilliant - and an achievement that many of us here can only dream about.
You must have learnt some great techniques or had strong support to make it so far. Has something happened recently to make you lose confidence in your sobriety? Could it be that the looming anniversary is playing on your mind?
You'll find lots of wisdom and support here
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Welcome to SR.
You are right. You only can control today. Therefore, you can only give assurances that you won't drink today.
I don't think my inability to guarantee that I will never drink again means I'm going to relapse. Nor does it undermine my committment to sobriety. In fact, the idea that I can't guarantee I won't drink keeps me extra vigilant that I won't drink today.
Originally Posted by afknight 
...yet who knows what the future holds.
I don't think my inability to guarantee that I will never drink again means I'm going to relapse. Nor does it undermine my committment to sobriety. In fact, the idea that I can't guarantee I won't drink keeps me extra vigilant that I won't drink today.
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In rational recovery we do make a big plan to never drink again. A lot of people find that helpful because it exposes all "beast activity". It shows you instances where you would want to drink again. For example if you say "I will never drink again" Your beast usually says "well what about when _____ happens".
Anyway its just a thought.
Jess
Anyway its just a thought.
Jess
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My help came with a bump. I took a 20' fall off a roof and found myself in ICU all tied down. It was there I had panic attacks of how I would be remembered, just lying there and people having to take care of me. Will I ever walk again, my work, my hobbies all gone? No one was there. Just a nurse every so often to help me go potty, and I mean go potty, not help me to the potty. Pride gone Humility all there. That was the start of my mission. I can walk and talk and all is well. I just have one major ailment that I deal with every day. I can deal with that as long as I continue doing and feeling what I'm doing.
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Hi af, For me, drinking is a choice. Sobriety is a choice. The only guarantee I see is that I guarantee I will be sick if I drink. I guarantee I'll be back on a road I didn't like. Other than that, it's a choice. The only thing to do is live in the present. Be present. Very best wishes to you af. Stick around.
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