love addiction/codependency
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love addiction/codependency
I am 8 days sober tonight. 
I'm feeling clearer and stronger not drinking. I usually drink over fear, fear of not being in love with my husband. I have a habit of staying in long term relationships all the while I am in emotional pain and turmoil of whether I should be there or not. They are good guys, mind you.
The guys that I have been in "love" with in the past are unavailable to me/not into me. The guys who are available, I don't want. I came across a diagnosis of ROCD, 'Relationship Obsessive Compulsive Disorder'. I know I have it. It's all part of my disease. I ask God to give me courage and willingness to move beyond my pain and fear and see clearly, doing the right thing for myself and others.
I am going to SLAA, "Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous". I've started going back now, I first went when I was 19. I'm 34 years old now. I identify as a love addict/codependent.
I would say my issues in this area come from childhood sex abuse. Fun eh?
Ha no wonder I drank. Glad I'm not today though.
I'm feeling clearer and stronger not drinking. I usually drink over fear, fear of not being in love with my husband. I have a habit of staying in long term relationships all the while I am in emotional pain and turmoil of whether I should be there or not. They are good guys, mind you.
The guys that I have been in "love" with in the past are unavailable to me/not into me. The guys who are available, I don't want. I came across a diagnosis of ROCD, 'Relationship Obsessive Compulsive Disorder'. I know I have it. It's all part of my disease. I ask God to give me courage and willingness to move beyond my pain and fear and see clearly, doing the right thing for myself and others.
I am going to SLAA, "Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous". I've started going back now, I first went when I was 19. I'm 34 years old now. I identify as a love addict/codependent.
I would say my issues in this area come from childhood sex abuse. Fun eh?
Ha no wonder I drank. Glad I'm not today though.
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Relationship/love addiction is a recent one added to my roster of addictions : ). In all cases, I have simply looked to something outside myself to make me feel better or validate my existence. The "magic potion" is actually in learning to accept, understand, nurture, love and validate myself; a work in continuous progress : )
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[QUOTE=The "magic potion" is actually in learning to accept, understand, nurture, love and validate myself; a work in continuous progress : )[/QUOTE]
Yes, I am glad I'm not drinking cause now I have all this other crap to get through.
Yes, I am glad I'm not drinking cause now I have all this other crap to get through.
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Originally Posted by rebeccaperth 
Yes, I am glad I'm not drinking cause now I have all this other crap to get through.
Exactly!I finally came to the realization that if I continued to drink I just couldn't make any progress with the internal disaster within : )
Everyday was groundhog day.
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Funny that
I looked up love addiction as i am 2.5 years sober from alcohol and think i have a love addiction problem. I was reading this post and thinking "wow i can really relate to it!" Only to realize that I wrote it myself, 2.5 years ago. Hahah. Since then i left my husband and found out he was on meth anyway. It has been a rough time but i am still sober. Well from alcohol anyway. But it is time to look at my sex and love addiction properly. I want a healthy relationship one day soon.
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