Son coming home.
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Son coming home.
My son who has been living by himself since February (except for 3 week stint at home in June, which ended badly) is coming home. I had asked him to leave at that time because he was using at home and his behavior was getting very aggravating.
Why am i allowing him back home given my previous experience? Short answer is that I am taking a chance. My hope is that by providing some stability and family support he may take steps towards recovery. He has been talking about going to an out patient program. I want to give him a chance to put some walk behind his talk. He seems to be more serious than before.
I guess I am trusting him to take the right steps. It will become evident soon, if he is ready or not. I am hopeful but realistic as well that I may have to evict him again.
Why am i allowing him back home given my previous experience? Short answer is that I am taking a chance. My hope is that by providing some stability and family support he may take steps towards recovery. He has been talking about going to an out patient program. I want to give him a chance to put some walk behind his talk. He seems to be more serious than before.
I guess I am trusting him to take the right steps. It will become evident soon, if he is ready or not. I am hopeful but realistic as well that I may have to evict him again.
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My dad gave me an outpatient ultimatum. He does not know about opiates 
I am a hypocrite. BUT he does know about alcohol and marijuana. My choices were to sober up, go to treatment, or be homeless. I am in treatment still, and I am thankful to my dad. I found a free state run program that I go to mon-fri from 8am-noon. I like it. It feels like going to school. They random test me as well, so my dad knows that as long as I am in the program then I am sober.
I hope your son responds positively, and I hope that everything works out for you. Hugs
I am a hypocrite. BUT he does know about alcohol and marijuana. My choices were to sober up, go to treatment, or be homeless. I am in treatment still, and I am thankful to my dad. I found a free state run program that I go to mon-fri from 8am-noon. I like it. It feels like going to school. They random test me as well, so my dad knows that as long as I am in the program then I am sober. I hope your son responds positively, and I hope that everything works out for you. Hugs
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Pravchaw, I hope it all works out well and your son is serious about getting some help in recovery. What a wonderful gift you are giving him. Praying for your son to be receptive to help and for you both to have good, open communication and the ability to live in harmony.
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Pravchaw, you have done A LOT of work on yourself these past few months. I am sure you have the tools you need and the ability to seek guidance if you don't. Your son is blessed to have a dad like you. Stick with boundaries and love and your HP will prevail. With support and hope for all the best!
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We never know until we try. People are in a continuous state of change, all of us I think. I hope he takes hold of the wonderful opportunity, all the positivity, and hope that is there for him.... prayers for all of you being sent up tonight.
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Thank you everyone. Your support over the last few months has been a life saver. I think I am better equipped now let go and let him work his recovery if he wants to.
I picked him up today and bought him home. He says he needs to go into detox for a few days. He says he will go on Monday.
I picked him up today and bought him home. He says he needs to go into detox for a few days. He says he will go on Monday.
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Everything is good. Still waiting for a bed to open up at the place my son wants to go. He is at home, seems to be coping, mostly pleasant. I have not seen any overt signs of using or intoxication. He knows our boundaries Mj withdrawal lasts for weeks but is low grade. He does seem to be serious this time.
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A bed did open up today and he has gone to detox. He is to remain there for 5 days after which they will do an assessment and recommend an out patient or an in patient program for 3 to 6 weeks. He has taken a first step in the right direction in a very long time. I am sure right now his brain is still very muddled with the drug withdrawal but hopefully he will start to think straight in a few days.
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Really good news Pravchaw... I think I just breathed a big collective sigh of relief for you. This is really big for your son...I will keep you all in my prayers and appreciate you sharing with us!! Have a really good, peaceful nights sleep. He is in good hands...they'll take great care of him.
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