Itsmytime1234

Is going out sober lame? Lol, I have a few events coming up. Casino tomorrow night for a co workers 21st birthday. ( no she's not a typical 21 year old who will be binge drinkng) and a New York food and wine tour with friends where I got tix to this awesome private party to meet all these famous chefs with my friends a while back. I'm really not worried about being tempted to drink everyone knows I'm sober and ppl I just meet within 5 mins no I no longer drink. I'm just getting in this slump where I don't want to go out anymore. I just wanna sit at home with dogs and watch movies. The thought of going out just doesn't appeal to me, but when I drank I would get so amped to go out. And I not depressed at all. Does the fun loving sober side still exist? I want to be able to go out dancing with my girlfriends and have fun! Or get super dressed up for dinner and " mock tails" I just feel like when I quit drinking I quit being social:/ just homebody now which is okay to a certain extent but I'm only 27, I guess I'm feeling old n frumpy

Coldfusion

I have always been a solitary type of person. As part of my recovery, I am trying to become more social. I go out to a couple AA meetings per week, and these are definitely sober activities.

SkyeSea

There's nothing wrong with taking some 'time out' to be yourself If staying home makes you happy, then do it (not forever though) - we get one life and it's not a dress rehearsal. Do what makes you happy

SkyeSea

I totally relate to this. Was an only child so always been used to 'my own company' and I too, am making myself go out more as I really DO love being around people, just sometimes I can get real lazy about making the effort

Mizzuno

It could be that you are in a " take care of self" mode. A mild hibernation. This will not last if you make sure to go out at times. Do what feels right to you. I would not worry about it too much.

Imabuleva

You're in your first year of sobriety (I clicked your profile), right?

I wouldn't know from experience, but from what I've read on these forums, people figure out a lot of things about themselves during their first year of sobriety. You probably weren't more "fun-loving" when you were drinking. You were just drinking. Just my two cents. Hope it helped.

least

Your social aspect will come back. Give yourself time. Until then, treat yourself well.

GreekGuy

I was always really social, it is how I started drinking really. Extroverts tend to be more apt. to abuse Alcohol and Drugs. But then it changed and I started staying home and drinking. To hide how much I was drinking and also not to make a fool of myself. I blew it off as I changed and now wanted to be alone ext. I do like being alone sometimes, but I also love walking around all over the place and I can talk to anyone. After a week of being sober, only a week, I am not all over the place again. Walking a lot more, starting to look for things to do, sending out more resumes (I'm looking for work), bringing my dog for much longer walks, eating better, cooking instead of ordering out. It is amazing. My closest friends says "Mikey is back"... lol Its nice. Give it a try.

pattyj

I have a little over 5 months. I went out and did stuff constantly for the first couple of months. I'm now in a stay at home mode and just relaxing with my dogs. Everyone goes through changes as we continue to stay sober. Do what feels right for you in the moment and have no regrets. Go to a casino, I've been many times, or stay at home. I'm 30, only a couple years older. I feel lame sometimes but I also need some time to just be with myself. And other times I'm out and about at night.

Nighthawk8820

Yes the fun girl still exists. Problem is we use alcohol as a social lubricant for so long, we forget how to have fun and lower our inhibitions naturally. You will learn how to do it all again, and its so much more rewarding being in control of your actions and fun vs. making a hot mess of yourself and not remembering it the next day. Think of it this way, you had fun as a kid, right? Did you drink then? No? well there you go.