So here I am...night one, not quite hour one yet
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So here I am...night one, not quite hour one yet
I normally start drinking when my daughter goes to bed. Tonight that will be in an hour and a half. My husband is already pretty well lit. I haven't told him my plan but I know he will be totally supportive. I know deep down he wants to be free too. He's a much heavier drinker than I am. We have been together 24 years and drank pretty much every single night of those years (except when I was pregnant of course). It's hard to be the one to jump off the train first! I know in a little bit my thighs will start itching. I will be scratching at the tops of my thighs all evening.
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Congratulations to you. Please know your decision is one to "wake up" to your life. It is an absolutely amazing and interesting discovery..but it is not without its scary sights. All the best to you. I really hope to keep seeing you around.
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He'll just figure it out. He'll notice I'm not drinking and he won't point it out or anything. But....if I break down (I won't), he wouldn't say anything either. As for the thighs. I guess that's my creepy crawly bugs thing maybe? Doesn't your nervous system go nuts because it's used to getting it's dose of drugs at this time of day and get overactive or something like that?
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Originally Posted by icandoallthings 
I normally start drinking when my daughter goes to bed. Tonight that will be in an hour and a half. My husband is already pretty well lit. I haven't told him my plan but I know he will be totally supportive. I know deep down he wants to be free too. He's a much heavier drinker than I am. We have been together 24 years and drank pretty much every single night of those years (except when I was pregnant of course). It's hard to be the one to jump off the train first! I know in a little bit my thighs will start itching. I will be scratching at the tops of my thighs all evening.
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Originally Posted by icandoallthings
He'll just figure it out. He'll notice I'm not drinking and he won't point it out or anything. But....if I break down (I won't), he wouldn't say anything either. As for the thighs. I guess that's my creepy crawly bugs thing maybe? Doesn't your nervous system go nuts because it's used to getting it's dose of drugs at this time of day and get overactive or something like that?
This is just how my husband is as well. He is on his 4th, I believe. At least. It is showing and gets annoying when I am sober! But I was right there with him until very recently.
I also get itchy and twitchy legs the first several nights when I try to sleep. More when I have been drinking more heavily and stop. I was more moderate in the last bout of drinking, so the itchies were not there, or maybe one or two nights.
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Hmmmmmm. Yes I had/have symptoms; vomiting, diarrhea, sweats, chills, shakes, crying, thirst, salt cravings, chocolate cravings, extreme weight loss, nervousness, irritation, etc. I guess we all have something or another. Hoping it will smooth out. Good luck! Look forward to seeing you!
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I think I will have night sweats. I don't think I'll be able to sleep much. I think I'll keep waking up in a panic because it seems like I forget to breathe or something. Have you ever heard of that? In the night it will feel like I can't get a deep breath. Beyond that though.... I haven't experienced anything more in the past....
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I had horrendous anxiety and panic attacks during the first few days. Like others have said, don't hesitate to talk to a doc if you have any concerns. This is serious stuff. And congratulations on your decision!
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Icandoallthings, in the past I have had night sweats and some anxiety with quitting. And wakefulness. Just got some good sleep the last 2 nights, after about 2 weeks at this, with one slip.
Do consider if you need medical support to detox.
Do consider if you need medical support to detox.
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Hello ican. This is an amazing decision you've made. I think it'll help you to talk about it here - we all understand like no one else can.
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Glad to have you with us! You can definitely do this, and have a new life.
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Is that what that is? I guess that makes sense. This summer I was a little more honest with my doctor. I told her that I was having fits of rage and that I had "started" drinking a lot at night and that I think I needed something to calm me down. So now I'm on anti-anxiety medication. She also prescribed me an anti-anxiety medication that makes you tired. She said to take one of those if I have trouble sleeping. But I'm absolutely scared to death to take one of those because wonder if I do that stop breathing thing and DON'T wake up. Can you believe it. I pound down about 1 cup (I guess about 9 or 10 oz) of whisky each night between about 8 and 10:30 but I'm scared of a sleeping pill that's not even really a sleeping pill!?!
BTW, starting to scratch now. My calves itch and the backs of my hands are right now.
BTW, starting to scratch now. My calves itch and the backs of my hands are right now.
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Originally Posted by rochele
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This is just how my husband is as well. He is on his 4th, I believe. At least. It is showing and gets annoying when I am sober! But I was right there with him until very recently.
I also get itchy and twitchy legs the first several nights when I try to sleep. More when I have been drinking more heavily and stop. I was more moderate in the last bout of drinking, so the itchies were not there, or maybe one or two nights.
This is just how my husband is as well. He is on his 4th, I believe. At least. It is showing and gets annoying when I am sober! But I was right there with him until very recently.
I also get itchy and twitchy legs the first several nights when I try to sleep. More when I have been drinking more heavily and stop. I was more moderate in the last bout of drinking, so the itchies were not there, or maybe one or two nights.
He worked from home today, so I'm sure he's about 5 hours into it right now. Our daughter will go to bed in 10 minutes and he MIGHT make it another hour before passing out. So at least I only have to watch him drink for an hour or so. What usually goes wrong is I drink with him for that hour after our daughter goes to bed and then I want to stay up and drink more! So I do!! ....well.....did until today.
Why the heck do I have such a hard time giving it up!? I can control volume when I'm in public... I won't drink in front of my daughter because I'm afraid I'll act drunk (so sometimes I would start drinking 1/2 hour before her bed time). I absolutely would NEVER drink and drive. Jeepers!!
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Originally Posted by icandoallthings
Why the heck do I have such a hard time giving it up!? I can control volume when I'm in public... I won't drink in front of my daughter because I'm afraid I'll act drunk (so sometimes I would start drinking 1/2 hour before her bed time).
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I have had withdrawal now four times - my experience the BEST thing I did my last two detoxes was to MOVE and stay busy. I cleaned, dusted lights, I did laundry, I walked, you name it I did it. Getting my @$$ off the sofa was the hardest thing I did. I sweated like crazy, but moving around was WAAAY better than lying in writhing misery feeling that impending doom of catastrophe about to strike. Only advice I have. If he wants to drink - let him drink - kiss him tell him you love him and you are going to clean and make the house beautiful. I know when I was drinking the worse thing my husband did was tell me "I'm NOT drinking- blah blah blah" No drunk wants to hear how wonderful it is to not be like them, although everyone who is NOT drinking knows better.
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Originally Posted by icandoallthings
I think I will have night sweats. I don't think I'll be able to sleep much. I think I'll keep waking up in a panic because it seems like I forget to breathe or something. Have you ever heard of that? In the night it will feel like I can't get a deep breath. Beyond that though.... I haven't experienced anything more in the past....
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