jmh5

Hi there,

I'm meeting up with A tonight. We've been separated for over 3 months and I know the relationship is over. I tried to meet up with him about 5 times over the last month (he has been too busy with work - priorities are clear) I think he knows it's over too, we did catch up (always in public) 2 weeks ago and talked about some thing, but he didn't want to talk about 'us' but we need to make a line in the sand, but said he would when work quietened down and i was settled in my new place.

I felt so strong when we separated and have been going to heaps of alanon meetings. I know I do not want to be with him again. I am just scared I won't be able to say the words tonight. I am also sick, off work and feeling guilt about that. I just want to have the final 'no hope' left conversation, because I think I'll get a sense of relief when I do. Then we will just need to focus on splitting up our house - I feel overwhelmed thinking about that. So just a day at a time and any advice on speaking to him would be appreciated.

amy55

Don't speak to him, go no contact. You already probably told him a million times. He didn't listen then, won't listen now. Will turn it all around to you.

LadySage

Good luck to you tonight! Be strong and look forward not backwards. I had to tell my husband divorce was happening and there was no future today also. It's really hard. I do think it helps if you can avoid getting sucked in to too much explanation and back and forth. That's been the hardest for me.

jmh5

Thank you for your wisdom LadySage,

It sounds like is has been a massive journey for you. I pray for healing and new beginnings for you.

((Hugs))