johnatahn1

I relapsed tonight after successfully getting a job but being down and then getting beers I feel so ashamed right now now I sobered up

resolute50

John,you should have been happy to get a job.
You'll just have to dust yourself off and get back on the wagon again.
Definitely don't want alcoholism to effect your new job.

AlefVavResh

Don't beat yourself up. You didn't slink away and turn it into a 4-year relapse The fact that you came back to SR to fess up means you really want it.

MattyBoy

You've sobered up. That's the most important thing. Relapses are like money in the bank and - so long as they don't turn into weeks, months, years - can be a very important in gaining long term sobriety. You just need to play the tape and remember how bad you felt when you relapsed next time you're thinking of drinking/using again. Good luck getting back on the wagon!

lorelei

Hey j...
Congrats on the job x this is just a slip, dust yourself off and get straight back onto being sober. Start your new job on a positive note hugs L x

Amanda1

I did the exact same thing on Saturday after 8 years sober. I've spent the last 3 days beating myself up and posting on here and I now know it was just a blip! Like the others have said, you're sober now! Stay strong, look after yourself, be kind to yourself and start your new job feeling proud. There is no need for this to turn into days or weeks of drinking. Much love x

Nuudawn

Welcome John. How much sobriety did you have under your belt when you succumbed to a bad moment? What kind of resources have you been leaning on in recovery? Are you a member of some sort of peer support group like AA? Do you have friends who are sober? Have you tried counselling? Do you know much about the beast in your brain you are actually dealing with?

This is a great place to meet some friends and gain some support, guidance and wisdom..as well as some smiles and even the ocassional belly laugh....stone cold sober : )

Dee74

It's hard to change our lives John - sometimes we need a couple of run ups.

Like Nuudawn said, maybe it's time to think of adding a little more to your personal recovery programme?

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Raider

Welcome John!

SoberChristy

Sorry to hear that John. What made you so down?

LadyinBC

Hi Johnathan,

The important thing is to learn from it. Shame and guilt will get you nowhere. Like others have said pick yourself up and move on. You CAN do this.

Hevyn

John, I did the same thing plenty of times - but I finally stopped leaning on booze to handle my emotions. It never, ever makes anything better or easier. Once we really believe that, we're not as tempted to reach for it to deal with things.

It's best to not feel shame - as the others mentioned - it's useless. Being a bit disappointed is ok - but please cheer up and be happy you put a stop to it quickly. Last time I messed up it took me 7 years to rejoin the human race. You can do this, John!