Twelve Step Review
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Twelve Step Review
Identify a situation or condition in your life that is currently a source of resentment,fear, sadness or anger. It may involve relationships (family, work, or sexual), work environmnt, health, or self esteem. Describe the situation and indicate your concerns.
Use the following questions to apply the principles o the 12 steps to your situation.
Step 1: In what ways are you powerless, and how is his situation showing you the unmanagabilty of your life?
Step 2: How do you see your Higher Power as helping you to restore your sanity?
Step 3: How does being willing to to turn your life over to the care of God assist you in dealing with this?
Step 4: What characture defects have surfaced? (e.g. fear of abandonment or authority figures, control, approval seeking, obsessive/compulsive behavor, rescuing, excessive responsibility, unexpressed feelings)?
Step 5: Admit your wrongs, at least to God and yourself.
Step 6: Are you entirely ready to have God remove the shortcomings that have surfaced?
Step 7: Can you humbly submit to God and ask Him to remove your shortcomings? If not, what is your resistance?
Step 8: Make a list of person's being harmed.
Step 9: What amends are necessary, and how will you make the amends?
Step 10: Review the above Steps and be sure that nothing has been overlooked.
Step 11: Take a moment for prayer or meditation, asking God for the knowledge of His will for you.
Step 12: How can your understanding and spiritual awakening assist ou in dealing with your problem?
The 12 Steps for Adult Children
Use the following questions to apply the principles o the 12 steps to your situation.
Step 1: In what ways are you powerless, and how is his situation showing you the unmanagabilty of your life?
Step 2: How do you see your Higher Power as helping you to restore your sanity?
Step 3: How does being willing to to turn your life over to the care of God assist you in dealing with this?
Step 4: What characture defects have surfaced? (e.g. fear of abandonment or authority figures, control, approval seeking, obsessive/compulsive behavor, rescuing, excessive responsibility, unexpressed feelings)?
Step 5: Admit your wrongs, at least to God and yourself.
Step 6: Are you entirely ready to have God remove the shortcomings that have surfaced?
Step 7: Can you humbly submit to God and ask Him to remove your shortcomings? If not, what is your resistance?
Step 8: Make a list of person's being harmed.
Step 9: What amends are necessary, and how will you make the amends?
Step 10: Review the above Steps and be sure that nothing has been overlooked.
Step 11: Take a moment for prayer or meditation, asking God for the knowledge of His will for you.
Step 12: How can your understanding and spiritual awakening assist ou in dealing with your problem?
The 12 Steps for Adult Children
Nature Girl
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JT
What a fabulous post. I have been thinking a lot about the steps lately, and tend to try to apply each step to my whole life at once (just a tad overwhelming!!). But to apply each step to one particular issue is a great way to self-review what is going on inside my head and take healthy measures to deal with it.
As you know I am struggling with the probablility of moving out west this fall. I love my husband and want to be with him...and I love Toronto and my life here. I must choose my husband. Even though the separation has not been a problem with us, we speak every day and I visit about every 6 weeks, I know that if it were just for a year or so I would stay here, but it will be about 5 years and then we can retire here. In the meantime I have enjoyed working freelance and having more time to myself and have also been able to rest up and focus on my recovery after the court thing with my son. I know deep down I am not feeling really good about moving that far away from him, but I know that if he stays clean (and he is doing really well...at least for now) then he can fly out and visit often. If he relapses, I really don't want to be around to watch anyway. Your questions helped me walk my mind through that today, and I am so grateful you posted this.
Hugs and love
Ann
P.S. I loved the story of your grandson - he is so lucky to have you for a grandma and guardian angel too, I think. God Bless you all.
What a fabulous post. I have been thinking a lot about the steps lately, and tend to try to apply each step to my whole life at once (just a tad overwhelming!!). But to apply each step to one particular issue is a great way to self-review what is going on inside my head and take healthy measures to deal with it.
As you know I am struggling with the probablility of moving out west this fall. I love my husband and want to be with him...and I love Toronto and my life here. I must choose my husband. Even though the separation has not been a problem with us, we speak every day and I visit about every 6 weeks, I know that if it were just for a year or so I would stay here, but it will be about 5 years and then we can retire here. In the meantime I have enjoyed working freelance and having more time to myself and have also been able to rest up and focus on my recovery after the court thing with my son. I know deep down I am not feeling really good about moving that far away from him, but I know that if he stays clean (and he is doing really well...at least for now) then he can fly out and visit often. If he relapses, I really don't want to be around to watch anyway. Your questions helped me walk my mind through that today, and I am so grateful you posted this.
Hugs and love
Ann
P.S. I loved the story of your grandson - he is so lucky to have you for a grandma and guardian angel too, I think. God Bless you all.
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My computer just wouldn't let me on to this post. It took hours to get here 
I think you're pretty wonderful, helping us when you are going through so much right now. I have searched high and low to find your post about your grandson that Ann mentioned. I just can't find it. I hope things are going well.
I might add that those questions seem pretty overwhelming right now, so I'm just going to focus on one.
Hugs,
MG
I think you're pretty wonderful, helping us when you are going through so much right now. I have searched high and low to find your post about your grandson that Ann mentioned. I just can't find it. I hope things are going well.
I might add that those questions seem pretty overwhelming right now, so I'm just going to focus on one.
Hugs,
MG
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MG- The story is on the Nar-Anon board under "Thinking of you, Just Tired". What an outstanding person JT is. I think of people like her (and us) as God's "Special" angels. I have a small gold charm bracelet and all my charms are angels. Even my son knows better than to even think of it.
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I could write for a whole day on step four. Hit a crisis and all the defects come springing to the top.
The only difference is that I have some control over them, when I didn't years ago. I can analize before acting now.
The past is a strong force that we use to deal with the present. Dealing with things in new ways is very risky business, but it creates a new past.
I think that is what you call stinking thinking.
MG
The only difference is that I have some control over them, when I didn't years ago. I can analize before acting now.
The past is a strong force that we use to deal with the present. Dealing with things in new ways is very risky business, but it creates a new past.
I think that is what you call stinking thinking.
MG
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