Kath76

I've been sober on and off for the past year. Last September I had a massive night that I don't remember at all. I know I hurt some people but honestly have no idea how or why. i am usually quite reserved but i feel so much release when i drink i just dont know when to stop.

I try to not think of that night because when I do I'm overwhelmed with anxiety, regret and humiliation.

I am trying to be a better person with all the small things in my life in a hope to reverse all the bad that I've done.

I am again taking one sober day at a time but when will the guilt ever end?

james872

It happened. Accept it and move on. Many people, including myself, have done far more humiliating things when drunk. It used to bother me but now I've let go. Let go and move on!

IOAA2

I think it will if you let it. It MIGHT help if you said to these people that your humiliated and sorry for being out of control. Chances are they forgot about it or thought nothing of it but you apologized and can remove that from your mind. BE WELL

hypochondriac

There's nothing like being sober and doing the right things to help alleviate guilt and regrets. There is also a book by Kurtz called Shame and Guilt that may be worth checking out.

Anna

You can learn to forgive yourself. In fact, I think it's really important, though not easy, to forgive yourself. Don't think of it as excusing what you did. Think of it as a lesson learned and moving on. No one is perfect and we all make mistakes. Don't allow this mistake to overwhelm your life.

Oldselfagain

Hi Kath.....worrying about the past brings on depression and worrying about the future brings on anxiety. Think about today and take it one day at a time, that will help.

Rogue

You have to learn to forgive yourself for the things that you have done. It's hard, I'm still working on trying to forgive myself and moving forward, but until you do you always feel guilty.

Lightning Bug

Regrets will eat away at you - don't give them the power. Let them go.

LadyinBC

The first thing we have to do when we become sober is forgive ourselves.

I hurt my daughter with my drinking and unfortunately I can't go back and change it. By sobering up, staying sober, and working on myself, that is how I am making amends to her.

People that care about us know we are changing and my daughter has been very supportive in my recovery. She doesn't want her or me to dwell on the past, we can't get it back. I know we can't always forget, but we can forgive. So thankful she is my daughter!

13unluckyforsom

I think all us drinkers have regrets - it's part in parcel of being an alcoholic. The only thing we can do is say sorry and try and right the wrong - some people will be able to accept our apologies and forgive and others - maybe not straight away - actions sometimes speak louder than words and we may have to earn people's trust and respect again. We just have to be patient.

I'm terrible for beating myself up and dwelling on things - but being sober now I kind of feel like I can stop being so hard on myself - I'm trying now to be better - I was never bad as a person but my drinking strained some relationships shall we say.

We can't undo the past but we can create a future that we can go to sleep at peace with st the end of the day