thesun

Im in a sticky situation. My girlfriend lives in London, I live and work about 100 miles away in my hometown. My parents own a flat in my hometown that I have an offer to move into at a low rent. I want to move in there, live on my own, free from distractions, and fit in as many aa meetings as possible. This town can also be very boring with not alot to do.

However I also want to be with my girlfriend, i dont want to break up with her and finish a 5 year relationship. She keeps asking me to move to London. I think if i move up there i think it may be harder to stay sober. As I would have to live with people. Although a positive from living there is there are more alcohol free activities to do there, like going to the theatre etc, also there would be the support of my girlfriend which could help alot.

What do you think the best option is?

Hollyanne

How long have you been sober?
If you are newly sober, I would strongly suggest not making any big moves.
A cheap apartment near work sounds sensible.
If you moved to London and ended up breaking up with your girlfriend, what then?
If you have a 100 mile commute to work, when do you get to go to meetings?
Loads of scenarios here.
Do you have a sponsor/therapist/solid friend to bounce some ideas off?
Big suggestion by most in early (first year) of sobriety, is, don't make any big decisions if you can help it.

Hollyanne

BTW, you probably would get more responses in the Newcomers/Alcohol forums, but I guess, I spotted it!

thesun

Thanks for your help Hollyanne, yeh I am newly sober. Haven't started meetings yet. If I moved to London I'd have to look for another job.

thesun

Do you know how to move the thread? Sorry for another question! ha