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Old 08-28-2013, 02:51 PM
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hi AGAIN...

for those of you who read my previous posts-i hope you can help!
the thoughts was that i couldnt NOT drink when my partner is around. he works 7-4pm and i drink during the night (when he is home and the kids are in bed), he doesnt have the option of working nights so.......
i thought that maybe i could go to bed at around 6pm, be asleep while he is awake and by the time i wake up the night will be over and he will be out?
what do you think?
(BTW i do realize how selfish i am, when he works all the time and i drink the nights away)

i really need some replies to this-if it gets to tomorrow afternoon, i wont have a choice. i will have to drink
thoughts please
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Old 08-28-2013, 03:01 PM
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I don't really understand what your meaning? Do you want to continue drinking or stop?
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Old 08-28-2013, 03:05 PM
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It;s simply not true that you have no other options than to hide away or to drink.

You can;t sleep forever, and you can't keep drinking.

What about other options instead - going to AA or some other group, for example, or counselling, or outpatient or inpatient rehab - even posting here when you feel like drinking?

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I don't get it. Are you saying you won't see your partner at all, just so you can drink? That sounds pretty rash. What about trying to fix things?
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Old 08-28-2013, 03:08 PM
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i want to stop, but once the afternoon comes around i NEED to drink
you need to believe that I HATE THIS!
i didnt want to drink tonight. it was almost 7:30 which is 'drinking time. i didnt want to at all but i couldnt not drink.
im hoping tomorrow will be different
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Old 08-28-2013, 03:12 PM
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You aren't hating it enough, I guess. All I can say is it is very unlikely you are actually hiding anything. Do you have stuff to do? Maybe find something to do and distract yourself a bit?
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If someone put their hands around your throat and squeezed for 1 minute, can you imagine how you would be feeling.

That would be a Need
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i want to stop, but once the afternoon comes around i NEED to drink
A lot of us here can understand that.
That's exactly where reaching out for support comes in, sm.

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i wasnt saying that i wouldnt see my partner at all, but yes, that is how it would be i suppose.
just until i could control myself more.
if you havent read my previous posts then i dont think you understand.
i was in a bad relationship and someone suggested that maybe i drink because there is a male around(which makes complete sense since i dont feel the urge to drink unless i know he will be home(although i trust him-i guess its the past being ridiculous in my head))
my point was that if i wasnt around when he was for a while then maybe i could get a handle on things and then be ordinary again?!
(as if that could ever happen!)
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Old 08-28-2013, 03:21 PM
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Yeah you need outside professional help - we all understand its not as easy as just saying no to drinking. It's an illness and like any illness it needs medical attention, I hope you arrange some help and it's soooooo something that you can do. You just need to take the step forward and admit that you need help.
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Why would you want to be ordinary? I would prefer to be exceptional again, myself.
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i just want to be the way i was
when i thought with a clear mind and lived for life, instead of living for booze
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Old 08-28-2013, 03:53 PM
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Originally Posted by smadams11 View Post
i just want to be the way i was
when i thought with a clear mind and lived for life, instead of living for booze
So why not try "needing" this? When you need this more than you need a drink, you'll be able to move forward.

Looks like it might be close to midnight where you are and you already started drinking tonight. . . . Find a camera and film yourself. Just blather on about how much you needed to drink tonight, let it all out. Then watch that tomorrow. I'm just throwing this out there as a radical idea.
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Old 08-28-2013, 03:56 PM
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Well, you can do that again. Maybe talk to your partner and ask for assistance in getting some professional help? There are options if you pursue them. Every one of us has played the game you are playing in some fashion. It won't work, sorry.
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I hope that you find a way to stop drinking.
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Old 08-28-2013, 04:18 PM
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From what you have described, it's an obsession over alcohol.
The obsession can be removed because it's simply a thought process.
To change that thought process can be difficult when it comes to alcohol because of the effect of alcohol, it's too easy.
Perhaps some prayer ? and ask, "take it away"....
A strong cup of chamomile tea helps also, not the tea bag type, but the raw product still on the stems, that way it gives you something to do by cleaning the tea off the stems, into a tea pot and voila!
Your new obsession can be chamomile tea for example, and lots of it with no sugar.
If all else fails, keep praying and look for intuitive thoughts.
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Old 08-28-2013, 04:42 PM
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I do understand. I thought I couldn't live without it. But I have lived 63 days without it.
The first step is the hardest, I promise.

You have a group of people here who have been in your shoes. We no longer consumed alcohol it consumed us. You do have the power within you to say enough, the madness stops here and now. You are worth way more than the life you are in now.
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Old 11-05-2013, 06:24 PM
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If someone put their hands around your throat and squeezed for 1 minute, can you imagine how you would be feeling.
i dont need to imagine that-i am well aware of how that feels. and this was a need just as much as that. i felt like i was literally dying.
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