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Open to advise, suggestions, stories how other families go about their lives when not all family members agree on how to include the addicted family member in family events, day to day life... 
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The family member has to learn how to navigate life themselves but never pressue them to attend drinking situations. You can not keep them from drinking and you can not make them drink. You can be respectful about how difficult it is for us to be around alcohol
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Hi SoulLight and 
You've come to a great place where you'll find a lot of help from those who have been there.
Can you be a little more specific about your situation? What is your role in this?
You've come to a great place where you'll find a lot of help from those who have been there.
Can you be a little more specific about your situation? What is your role in this?
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Hi, SoulLight, and welcome to SR. I hope you find this site to be a source of wisdom and support.
There is a section of the forum called "Family and Friends of Alcoholics", also one for family and friends of substance abusers. You might like to take a look at whichever of those applies to your situation, maybe post there to see if you get some more specific feedback.
Again, welcome to SR, hoping that you find clarity and peace.
There is a section of the forum called "Family and Friends of Alcoholics", also one for family and friends of substance abusers. You might like to take a look at whichever of those applies to your situation, maybe post there to see if you get some more specific feedback.
Again, welcome to SR, hoping that you find clarity and peace.
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My brother is an alcoholic with a gambling addiction. Geographically I am the only immediate family member close to him and his family and therefore have been entrenched in the situation. The go-between you might say as there are "no contact conditions" in place since he was removed from his home last year.
We are planning a milestone family event and the planning is getting complicated because as a family we are not all on the same page with respect to my brother's addictions and how his family has responded to him now being in recovery.
We are planning a milestone family event and the planning is getting complicated because as a family we are not all on the same page with respect to my brother's addictions and how his family has responded to him now being in recovery.
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Awkward, uncomfortable around/towards some family members who are angry with what has become of him and what he has done to his family. A year ago this September we lost a member of our family, they were killed by a drunk driver and it was this event that seemed to be what sent him over that edge about a month after the fatal collision into a drunken rage that had him removed from his home. Some family members are struggling with why he couldn't use that tragic event to inspire him into recovery. Instead he became the "enemy".
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Not sure if he's still drinking and gambling. Do know that he has had many drinking slip ups since being removed from his home with the last one that I am aware of about 2 months ago. Yes by saying "his family" he has a wife and children.
Can move this discussion to F&F just not sure how to do that!?
Can move this discussion to F&F just not sure how to do that!?
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