family party.....booze everywhere

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08-16-2013, 08:05 AM

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thewill

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family party.....booze everywhere

Im day 4 like ive posted...struggling. My mother is having a pool party tommorow with lots of wine and cold beer flowing. Do I go?

08-16-2013, 08:07 AM

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Amajorityofone

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Im day 4 like ive posted...struggling. My mother is having a pool party tommorow with lots of wine and cold beer flowing. Do I go?

Hell no.

Tell her you caught a cold.

08-16-2013, 08:09 AM

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ReadyAtLast

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I wouldn't have gone anywhere near a party on day 5

08-16-2013, 08:10 AM

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AlisonW

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Another vote for "no go"

08-16-2013, 08:10 AM

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thewill

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She has not seen my daughter in months I feel guilty not going.

08-16-2013, 08:12 AM

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ReadyAtLast

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arrange for her to see your daughter another day. don't use your daughter as an excuse to go and drink.

08-16-2013, 08:12 AM

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Anna

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This is the time to put yourself first, not your mother. Don't go. If she hasn't seen your daughter for months, she can wait a little longer.

08-16-2013, 08:16 AM

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thewill

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Thank you. I am not going.

08-16-2013, 09:01 AM

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ReadyAtLast

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good for you.No one ever regretted NOT drinking

08-16-2013, 09:10 AM

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Nuudawn

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She has not seen my daughter in months I feel guilty not going.

Now is not the time to address what hasn't been addressed "in months". Making sobriety your priority are not just "airy words" that have concessions for guilt and the like. There actually are no concessions for not making sobriety your priority. Okay if someone was holding a gun to your daughter's head and telling you they'd shoot if you didn't take a shot. You could have a drink. But that wouldn't be about drinking at all now would it...that would be about saving your daughter's life. Kind of what you're doing by staying sober and working on recovery.