Does drama with family ever set you off?
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Does drama with family ever set you off?
Sometimes I wish I was an only child (there are 8 of us). Life would be so much easier without these toxic people. Drama llamas - all of them. They would drive me to drink today - but I have control of my sobriety and refuse to lose if for a bunch of wackadoodles.
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Hi, Earthsteps.
There are only two of us - me and my brother, but is was enough to cause major problems in my life.
It wasn't easy decision but I chose to have a life after all.
Stay strong. You deserve a good sober life)
There are only two of us - me and my brother, but is was enough to cause major problems in my life.
It wasn't easy decision but I chose to have a life after all.
Stay strong. You deserve a good sober life)
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My mother and my brother drive me nuts....totally nuts. The placing distance thing works well in most cases. When I do have to be around family I try to have an escape plan or excuse in place so I can jet if I need to. I've had to be pretty up front with my mother lately about how I can't engage in the negativity and drama for my own sanity and sobriety. Great post!
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I have unresolved issues with my mom. She has never been there for me. She had me at 16 but I was raised by my great grandmother. We have reversed roles. I'm always taking care of her. She's an alcoholic. Sometimes I wonder if I should try to resolve my issues with her or continue to stuff the feelings. Of course stuffing the feelings makes me want to drink. I don't have answer but totally get where your coming from. Let's not let them take anything else away...especially our sobriety.
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I certainly agree that family drama can be
a big culprit that could and would cause
people to drink or use. When one person
is in recovery it is important to take care
of yourself and do whatever you need to
do to remain sober.
I learned early on that no one is responsible
for my continued recovery but me. So, with
the tools and knowledge of recovery set down
for us to use daily, I can use it in all areas of
my life, including family.
In order for me to remain sane, at peace, stress
free, I had to distance myself from them. In fact
I removed myself, detached myself, divorced myself
from the very source that is toxic to my health and
recovery.
I can't keep myself sober and healthy if I continued
to return to disfunction, sick, and a unhealthy family
unit.
Today, and one day to go before Im 23yrs sober,
im happier, healthier, more at peace and grateful
in recovery as I continue to remain sober one day
at a time.
a big culprit that could and would cause
people to drink or use. When one person
is in recovery it is important to take care
of yourself and do whatever you need to
do to remain sober.
I learned early on that no one is responsible
for my continued recovery but me. So, with
the tools and knowledge of recovery set down
for us to use daily, I can use it in all areas of
my life, including family.
In order for me to remain sane, at peace, stress
free, I had to distance myself from them. In fact
I removed myself, detached myself, divorced myself
from the very source that is toxic to my health and
recovery.
I can't keep myself sober and healthy if I continued
to return to disfunction, sick, and a unhealthy family
unit.
Today, and one day to go before Im 23yrs sober,
im happier, healthier, more at peace and grateful
in recovery as I continue to remain sober one day
at a time.
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