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Old 08-09-2013, 04:54 PM
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This is the time I usually start drinking.....

I know everyone's drinking problem is different. Mine has evolved into drinking bottles of wine everyday when I get home from work. I have three kids twin 12 year olds and a five year old. I deal with the stress of homelife by drinking as soon as I walk in the door to ease into the stress. I manage to cook dinner and then I retreat outside to drink my night away. I usually call someone on the phone who then has to endure speaking to me as I get drunker and drunker. I am so surprised that no one has called me out on this. Not my husband and none of my friends or family. The other night I called my MIL and talked for so long I have no idea what I even told her. Tonight I DON'T want to do that!!!!! I want to enjoy my time with my kids and my husband. Some encouraging words please!!!!
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Old 08-09-2013, 04:59 PM
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I'm calling you out

Go get to know your kids

The five year old , especially

He / she ? Needs you

You can do this

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Old 08-09-2013, 05:05 PM
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Yes, good decision to stop drinking.

Change your routine tonight. Don't go outside, at least not by yourself. Do something with the kids and your husband. You'll feel better in the morning.
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Thanks! I just started to cry reading that! I have been waiting for someone to tell me that. I'm headed to the pool to spend time with my kids. No drinking for me tonight. One day at a time right...and today is a victory for me. No guilt for me tomorrow!
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Welcome brave fellow momma here. You can do this and we will be here to help you
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Old 08-09-2013, 05:18 PM
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One day at a time right...and today is a victory for me. No guilt for me tomorrow!
That's it Bravegirl, one day at a time.
And no guilt, just empowered!
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Old 08-09-2013, 05:28 PM
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One day at a time right...and today is a victory for me.
It most certainly is

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Congrats on taking the first step to come share on here. You'll get tons of support here. Come get the life that you want!
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Old 08-09-2013, 05:58 PM
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We just got back from the pool in our neighborhood. Some of our friends were there drinking and watching the game. My husband called to say he was on his way out there with some more of our friends. When I told him that I didn't want to go, he seemed to get annoyed with me. I told him I was trying really hard to not drink today. I said I have a problem and want to fix it. He said why now??? I guess even after finding me passed out on the patio the other night (which I didn't even know happened) he doesn't want me to stop because it is not a good time for him??? What do I do?? He says he is supportive but it sure doesn't seem that way.
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Old 08-09-2013, 06:09 PM
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It's a tough situation BraveGirl. He doesn't want to change so he doesn't want you to change either.

Unfortunately you sound like you KNOW you need to change.

If heading to the pool is going to cause you to drink - DON'T DO IT!!!

You can do this. This is my drinking time too. Instead of heading upstairs and fighting the urges, I popped in here.

Just get through tonight - don't worry about tomorrow. Great support here.
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Old 08-09-2013, 06:16 PM
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Hi Bravegirl. I am sorry that you seem to want this and your husband has gotten annoyed with you. Can you sit down and talk to him? Does he have a drinking problem? Hang in there. We are here for you.
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Old 08-09-2013, 06:21 PM
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I feel for you Bravegirl! I am sitting here on a Friday night stuffing my face with tacos and churros while my boyfriend is attending a 5 day country music festival and most likely getting drunk. He kind of wanted me to wait to quit until after the festival so I could attend, but once I made the decision, there was no going back. I refuse to get depressed or upset by it though. I just keep reminding myself who will be feeling better in the morning.
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Old 08-09-2013, 06:23 PM
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You being sober should not effect him in any other way than positive.
It's your body/mind that you're looking detox and keep sober, not his.
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Old 08-09-2013, 06:26 PM
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I feel for you Bravegirl! I am sitting here on a Friday night stuffing my face with tacos and churros while my boyfriend is attending a 5 day country music festival and most likely getting drunk. He kind of wanted me to wait to quit until after the festival so I could attend, but once I made the decision, there was no going back. I refuse to get depressed or upset by it though. I just keep reminding myself who will be feeling better in the morning.

Way to go Eleni!!!

There is ALWAYS some event that your AV says - "just wait until after that" :-)

YOU GO GIRL!!!
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