I had a slip and you know what?
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I had a slip and you know what?
My husband took the opportunity to tell me exactly what is wrong with me.
I am not a bad person. I care. I have love. Really - he told me that i didn't clean enough that the sugar ants will come in. I suck.
I am not a bad person. I care. I have love. Really - he told me that i didn't clean enough that the sugar ants will come in. I suck.
I don't think you suck Laura....but p[eople took the opportunity to tell me what they thought many times too.
Really what they were saying was 'you're better than what you're allowing yourself here', I think?
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Really what they were saying was 'you're better than what you're allowing yourself here', I think?
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It means that the only time he feels comfy enough to tell me that I suck is when I slip and am intoxicated. That is bad. Has anyone ever been through this?
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My husband is a controller. It's very hard to live with. I could write a book, but, eventually, you have to live your life for you. It's very, very hard, one day I will have the strength to end it, but for now I think a lot of relationships are habit.
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If he is drinking do not engage in his conversation. Keep it level and please try to remain neutral. Tomorrow will be a different day, and he may apologize for his words.
Ants will make their way into the home regardless of cleaning and what not. I have ants in my bathroom right now. They have found their way to the body wash. It is that time of year.
(((HUG)) to you.
There are some things you can change, some you can't.
You can't change that ants came in, but you can make them leave. Well, your husband can. By paying a bug guy.
I used to live in FL. (Still have a place there I go to with some frequency and hopefully will live there again someday.) Gulf Coast. It's the buggiest place in the US. You know who I loved? The bug exterminator guys. It doesn't matter how clean you are, you live in a tropical swamp. I am a clean person for the most part and when I lived in FL I had to call bug guys to come a few times a year. Everyone does.
I'm not sure if this preceded the slip- if it did, it's no reason to drink, if it didn't, it's no reason to keep drinking.
Even if you didn't clean up after the kids' cookie project last week and the ants came in, it's no reason for domestic strife. It's ants. In Florida. In summer.
Hugs.
You can't change that ants came in, but you can make them leave. Well, your husband can. By paying a bug guy.
I used to live in FL. (Still have a place there I go to with some frequency and hopefully will live there again someday.) Gulf Coast. It's the buggiest place in the US. You know who I loved? The bug exterminator guys. It doesn't matter how clean you are, you live in a tropical swamp. I am a clean person for the most part and when I lived in FL I had to call bug guys to come a few times a year. Everyone does.
I'm not sure if this preceded the slip- if it did, it's no reason to drink, if it didn't, it's no reason to keep drinking.
Even if you didn't clean up after the kids' cookie project last week and the ants came in, it's no reason for domestic strife. It's ants. In Florida. In summer.
Hugs.
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