Lionhearted1

Iam going through a break up just started therapy really trying to make a change... Iam still living at home with my ex and my little girl. But she's been texting another man non stop and even decided to show me a pic to really wind me up... Iam beyond fuming I feel like iam going to explode the only way I know how to calm down is drink....

LadyinBC

Don't. You don't need it and you will just create even more problems for yourself.

Obviously she is doing this to get a reaction from you. Don't bite.

Anna

Do not allow this woman to get into your head and cause you to drink. She is not worth it. Focus on your recovery and your daughter and you'll get through this.

Mizzuno

I am sorry that she is doing this. It is not worth drinking over. Do you have any where else to go?

Nuudawn

Talk about a cruel boundary violation. Yikes. Drinking may not numb you..it may make you extremely aggressive and kill the insensitive broad. Wanna go to prison? You have every right to be angry and upset. These are feelings are rightful Lion. You run or exercise? Perhaps go sweat it out. Got to gym and punch it out...walk it out. Go drive in your vehicle and scream it out. Just don't drink..that old bad solution brought you here. Remember?

Dee74

what about blocking her number LH?

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ReadyAtLast

Can you make alternative living arrangements LH? From a female pov it sounds as if she is just trying to wind you up,even drive you to drink. Don't give her the satisfaction of succeeding.

Lionhearted1

Thank you who responded... Believe it or not i did not drink I shouted that voice down and told it to F off... And an amazing thing happened I found a peace and calm in just being sober.. I felt more relaxed not drinking than drinking woud have made me.i realised iam stronger than i thought. I saw what she was doing as what it is a childish act.. She needs therapy more than me but that's another story.

ReadyAtLast

good for you LH, you did good

Hope you get some sleep., you'll wake up utterly relieved you didn't drink.

I love a phrase I saw on SR:

"No one ever wakes up wishing they'd got drunk the night before"

Nuudawn

Great response LH! Love what you wrote and realized.

visch1

Many times over the years for my sanity and probably my serenity I keep repeating the Serenity Prayer. It often works. BE WELL

Mizzuno

Great job! We can make it through anything really. Keep posting and talking it through. We are here for you.

DG0409

Way to go on not drinking!!

bigsombrero

Nice work - can you get out of this living situation in the near future? Sounds like at least some time away from your ex would be a very healthy move for you, despite missing some time with your kid. Grab some club soda and some chips and salsa, head for a Motel 6 or anywhere affordable with some cable TV and watch a ball game. Good luck.

Hevyn

Relieved to see you made it through without drinking. It never gives us the results we're seeking - only adds to the troubles we're already dealing with. Proud of you for standing tall and strong.

LadyBlue0527

I think that's all the smilies that a post permits or I would go on forever! Lionhearted, I am so happy to see what you posted above!

You can't do anything about her, you can only do exactly what you're doing for yourself.

Please try to find a way out of there so that she can't antagonize you like that!

Marcher13

Lionhearted you are indeed lionhearted, not only did you make the great step of not drinking in a stressful situation, you found strength and peace in yourself.