lillamy

I've been working a project with a project manager who is supremely detail oriented and supremely incapable of delegating and letting go. She has no issue with delegating -- she just want to sit over your shoulder and tell you how to do things once she's delegated it...

So part of the project is something I'm the office expert on, that I've done millions of times. She didn't want to put all of that on me, so she split that task between me and two others.

Guess what I've done all day today?

I've sat and steamed about the fact that the other two didn't do it right and they called our lawyers and asked them questions that I could have answered for them. And in general, it was just a stupid idea to delegate to those people at all, because I would have been able to handle that faster and better.

It's a good thing CONTROL ISSUES aren't among the codie behaviors I have, right?

AnvilheadII

i'd take it a little further, not only if they would just let ME do it would it be done right and on time, but then i could reap the PRAISES and be the HERO. how dare you steal my thunder??????

Tuffgirl

I work on this -consciously- every single day. It's not just you!!!

Do we need to add this to the thread with the list of codependent behaviors???

SparkleKitty

I could have written this post, and yes, we have to laugh!

fourmaggie

omy gosh you hit something there....its like stroking the ego....(sorry issue i am dealing with rite now...)

Chickadees

Thanks for posting this lillamy! I've been struggling with dealing with my mother's control issues lately. Unfortunately I don't think she's any where near being able to laugh at herself with regard to her issues and I'm not sure she'll ever be as that would require insight into the self-defeating behaviour (i.e. it's still everyone else's fault). In the mean time my siblings, step dad and myself continue to be hurt by her behaviour and left wondering what to do about it.

I don't want to hijack your thread so I may start another requesting input.

Thanks again,
Chick