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Join Date: Jun 2013
Location: Maine
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Hi LadyM87, from one Lady to another, welcome to the board! I was going to suggest that you check out the friends and family forum but I see you found your way there.
Happy that you came here, the people are great and you'll get some great insight and information
Happy that you came here, the people are great and you'll get some great insight and information
A Smart Bug is a Sober Bug!
Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: Hot and Muggy South Florida
Posts: 1,396
Welcome to SR... I am sorry for the loss of your relationship. Being with an active addict/alcoholic can be so draining.
We have a forum here for those who love/loved addicts, do check it out.
We have a forum here for those who love/loved addicts, do check it out.
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Join Date: Apr 2013
Location: Lakeside, Ca
Posts: 10,208
Originally Posted by LadyM87 
Anyone know when it starts to get better?
do you have any activities that can keep you a little busy
makes it worse when we sit around too much in our own head
I recommend bicycle riding for one healthy thing to do
Mountainman
makes it worse when we sit around too much in our own head
I recommend bicycle riding for one healthy thing to do
Mountainman
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Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: Woodstock,New York
Posts: 140
If u ended it it already started getting better, you will be amazed at how you will bounce back. The pain lessens and every day is a day closer to feeling better. Wait till some time goes by and you meet someone new,you'll look back and say,omg,what the hell was I thinking??? Keep your head up!!!!
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Join Date: Jun 2013
Posts: 128
Originally Posted by LadyM87
I am not an addict. I just ended a relationship with one and am exhausting all possible resources. Anyone know when it starts to get better?
Also reading, writing, exercising, spending time with friends and family, etc. it DOES get better. I think about 4-6 months out it dawned on me that life was so much better and I was no longer devoting so my time and energy to his addiction.
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Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: Toronto, ON
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wow thank you all so much for the support. I know I'm making the right choice. I know how great my life is. I have been keeping busy. Even before it ended I just didn't want to make time for him anymore he became so unreliable that I was always worried I'd be waiting for him to show and he'd bail, I started making more plans with my friends & family. I have been exercising a hell of a lot which makes me feel great. I am exhausted by the time I lay down at night. But the pain, it comes and goes in waves. I will be like on a positive happy vibe (my best self) and planning for my furture, getting excited about make up or clothes or the summer or whatever and then boom it just hits me like tidal wave. I hate this so much.
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Join Date: Jun 2013
Posts: 128
It's tough. You love the person and hate the disease. To this day I think my ex husband is a good man with a bad problem. However I had to
Consciously choose to not make his problem mine. Your exhaustion will dissipate and you will be able to reflect with a clear mind.
Consciously choose to not make his problem mine. Your exhaustion will dissipate and you will be able to reflect with a clear mind.
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