transformyself

My friends 8 year old son and husband capsized in Lake Michigan and her son died from hypothermia. I love this family so. They are the least dysfunctional, happiest little family I have known, and now their baby is gone and her husband is still in hospital.

I have been raging and crying all morning. Last August we buried 3 young men all in their early twenties. It did something to me that I can't even articulate. I have helped friends, my mother in law, my sons gf's mother die in the past several years. I said goodbye to a good friend who went to prison in June. I am feeling so beaten.

I don't think she's back home yet- my friend- from the place where they were vacationing. I don't even know how to process this. I am surrounded by death lately and it makes me angry. I'm aware that my reaction is anger, but it makes no sense. None. I don't even know how to go to the funeral. Don't even know how to do this.

Please send prayers to my friend Kim and her family.

theuncertainty

I'm so sorry to hear of your losses, Transform. I'll keep your friend and her family and you in my thoughts and prayers.

FireSprite

Oh, my heart & prayers go out to her, I can't even imagine. A friend lost her 8 yr old last month & even though we weren't the closest BFF's, it has affected me much more deeply than I ever expected & I am still struggling with it. (((HUGS)))

MsPINKAcres

prayers for your friend and her husband

CarryOn

Hugs for you, Transform. My thoughts and prayers will be with you, your friend, her husband and all the loved ones of this precious child. I will also pray that their little boy may rest peacefully. Please take care of yourself and allow yourself to process all the emotions that come with the grief - each one is important. When you are ready, I'm sure your friend will be so grateful to hear from you or see you...even if there are no words, the face of a friend and their hugs can do so much. Peace and comfort to you all.

Argnotthisagain

oh...oh dear... I can barely process all that; I can't imagine what is going on for you.....

Your friend Kim and her family, and you and the rest of your friends and family are in my thoughts. I wish I could change all of this for you, truly.

It makes no sense.

LexieCat

I'm so sorry, transform. You're all in my thoughts/prayers. Try your best to get the anger out of your system here. Kim and her husband need love and support.

Hugs,

Impurrfect

I'm so sorry Big hugs and prayers for you, Kim and all who loved this child.

Amy

wicked

I am sorry for your losses too transform.
this latest one is just awful.
I know I would be furious, and I think I would be mad because
IT ISN'T FAIR!

Yup, it is not fair for this family to lose their little boy.
It is not fair for the mom to suffer that loss and her closest support
is in the hospital.

Nope, it is not right for little boys to die in tragic accidents.
and it makes me mad.

I know you are angry, get it all out, cuz this sucks.
Prayers for all transform.

dammit, it just ain't right.

Love and light from me to you and this family.
to all who will be in pain from this terrible loss.

Beth

Hevyn

Prayers going up for Kim and her family to be comforted - and for you transformyself. It is heartbreaking and impossible to understand.

sunshine17

That is so terrible, and so not fair...my thoughts and prayers are with you and your friend.

DreamsofSerenity

I'm so sorry. Losing a child is a tragedy like no other.I do believe the beautiful boy is a peaceful place now, but I'm not sure that thought makes any difference to a devastated mother. My heart and prayers go out to her.

Tuffgirl

Ditto with everyone else. It isn't fair. It sucks.

Prayers from me today. Hang in there.
~T

Rosiepetal

Sending prayers & big hugs.
Anger is part of grief.

transformyself

Thank you everyone. I can't believe the rush of feelings I'm having. Guilt for turning this into MY issue, absolute horror for this family. I've just been sobbing.

I would really love it if we could talk about grief, about loss and recovery. If you've got any wisdom I would so appreciate sharing it.

Thank you SR family. Thank you for your prayers and compassion.

theuncertainty

Transformie, although I completely understand the feeling, you don't have to hold that guilt. I don't feel that you've made it 'your' issue. That a recent loss, and a concern for your friend and her family, should re-open the pain of other recent deaths is natural.

Sending hugs

dbh

Just said a prayer for your friend, her family, and for you too. Such an awful accident.

I just loss my sister two months ago and I too feel like I keep hearing more tragic news. I wonder if I'm just more sensitive to it now?

I think my own grief has opened up some unhealed places in myself.

Your friend is lucky to have you. I hope you can comfort each other.

Hugs,

db

sadielady

I am so sorry for your pain and losses, Transform, and your dear friend's horrific loss of her son. I will be thinking of you, sending you love and light.

Florence

I'm so, so sorry.