MyTimeNow

So in short, I found the meeting online last week in my home town, I emailed via the 'search for a meeting' website and got no reply. I called the place where it was being held and was given a number for the charity that runs it - no reply.

I've already arranged childcare but needless to say I've been getting a little antsy over it - can I just turn up etc?

I've made 2 phonecalls today, finally got through to the right person, have given my details, I have the name of the lady running it, she'll be expecting me.

I'm really looking forward to it

least

Have a great and productive time at the meeting.

MyTimeNow

Thanks least I'm hoping to

It's way out of my comfort zone, but I have - 'Nothing changes, if nothing changes - right?' stuck in my head. Courtesy of Dee I think.

I may be in pink cloud land, but I'm really looking forward to things changing for me. I've had CBT based therapies before, but of course never mentioned my drinking...

I bet I'll be a nervous wreck come 6pm tomorrow!

hypochondriac

I love SMART meetings I haven't managed to get to many because there aren't a lot of them in the UK yet but I am sure you will find it valuable. Have you been on the SMART UK website yet? They hold online meetings there and all the info about SMART itself is on there x

MyTimeNow

I've just registered this afternoon! I was on the .com site but figured most helpful being on the UK one. I'll look up the online meeting times too

Hopefully I'll be able to get there weekly but it does depend a lot on my childminder (Mum!) as she works away a lot.

I'm excited, I really feel like I've pushed through something this time rather than... I plan to do this, I plan to do the other... I'll try this... ad infinitum. I'm excited for myself and my own life, I do FEEL like I am moving forwards already.

oak

Yay! I am happy for you. I hope you like the meeting a lot.

MyTimeNow

Thanks oak, I hope so too! I'll be sure to let everybody know how it went

Carlotta

I don't do SMART but I am really happy for you that you got the courage to connect. F2F support is so important to me, only another person who has been there can truly understand. I hope you have a great time

MyTimeNow

Thanks Carlotta As much as I love Rational Recovery and it makes sense F2F is very important to me too as - I never get out! Lone parent with 2 children. I'm hoping it lives up to my expectations. I feel good for just giving it a go and want it to be a regular thing.

bemyself

Morning (over here) MTN!
,
I figure you'll enjoy the SMART approach - I only got to one meeting here, back a few months ago. But I found it nicely laid back which suits me better than highly structured set ups. It was really just a few people having a great discussion.

I gather each one is different depending on the facilitator, but hope yours is easy going like that too!

Anna

It sounds like a good idea.

I hope you check in and let us know how it was.

MyTimeNow

I will do Anna, hopefully it will be a positive experience and will help anybody else who is wondering about popping along to a group.

Been a busy day here. Off to bed. I'll update tomorrow evening *nervous*!

susasober1

What is the difference between an AA meeting and a SR meeting???

MyTimeNow

Hi susa, sorry i've only just seen this. I'll reply later as off out to the meeting in a sec.

Excitement has now turned into nerves... Aaargh!!!

MyTimeNow

Me too Vic!

ReadyAtLast

Hope all goes well for you MTN. Let usknow how it goes

MyTimeNow

Thanks Im in the waiting room ... all men so far!!

mecanix

Hope it goes ok,

Plenty more things to try if this one is a damp squib,

keep strong, m

MyTimeNow

Well not a damp squib but I left the waiting room and burst into tears anyway!

The reception lady leaned back over and said Jackie will be with you in a minute *gesturing behind her to Jackie* Oh yeah, that'll be Jack then, my daughter's father's best friends wife (if that makes sense)

I just walked out and called my Mum, burst into tears said I can't do this with her (we never particularly got on) and just started walking home across town until Mum could get back and pick me up.

I know from a confidentiality point of view I would be 'safe' BUT it's too close to home, I have enough issues with the ex, his friends and the past anyway, I'd never be able to talk to her and also she's a massive party girl (or at least was 4 years ago, I know things change)

so that's that. I'm really upset about it, got back into the car more tears, why me? Why my effing luck? I was so looking forward to it. Instead ended up with a McDonalds drive through and back home.

Hey ho, there is another one 20 odd miles away. I might enquire about that one.

All in all a big

ReadyAtLast

That's such rotten luck, I know some people will advise to stay and face her but I know I wouldn't either. Go with your instinct. If there is troublesome history and it's someone you need to avoid you did the right thing in leaving. Everything happens for a reason, even though it may not be obvious at the time

I'm thinking of alternatives for you. Let me sleep on it
I hope you manage to relax and get some sleep.