New here & not talking to mom
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New here & not talking to mom
Hello,
My mom is an alcoholic/pill addict. She is high functioning, has a professional job, but is always depressed and complaining. My 2 brothers live with her(both in their 30's), one of them has bipolar and has started to drink heavily as well. My mom was in recovery for about 15 years when we were growing up, but when we were little she was a horrible mess & it tore our family apart.
I have so much resentment towards her for drinking again after what she did to our family. She says that since her children are now grown she should be able to do whatever she wants, but I think it's sick that she would use alcohol around her child(adult or not) who has a drinking problem and a mental illness!
I have a nice family with a young daughter of my own and I finally decided that I can't have my mother around my family in her current state. I'm also battling health problems, trying to turn things around so I can be here to watch my daughter grow up. I told my mom that I'll be here when she gets some help, but haven't talked to her since. It is painful. We used to talk everyday. I don't have other friends, which is why I'm here. I look forward to reading all the great post and finding some support during this difficult time.
My mom is an alcoholic/pill addict. She is high functioning, has a professional job, but is always depressed and complaining. My 2 brothers live with her(both in their 30's), one of them has bipolar and has started to drink heavily as well. My mom was in recovery for about 15 years when we were growing up, but when we were little she was a horrible mess & it tore our family apart.
I have so much resentment towards her for drinking again after what she did to our family. She says that since her children are now grown she should be able to do whatever she wants, but I think it's sick that she would use alcohol around her child(adult or not) who has a drinking problem and a mental illness!
I have a nice family with a young daughter of my own and I finally decided that I can't have my mother around my family in her current state. I'm also battling health problems, trying to turn things around so I can be here to watch my daughter grow up. I told my mom that I'll be here when she gets some help, but haven't talked to her since. It is painful. We used to talk everyday. I don't have other friends, which is why I'm here. I look forward to reading all the great post and finding some support during this difficult time.
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Congrats on starting this journey to healing. My dad was a functioning drunk too, always went to work and retire with great benefits but didn't stop drinking till he was incarcerated at 80. You are very wise to not let her near your children, I never did.
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Yes keep reading around here and look at the stickies above, they are really helpful. Post how you are doing and feeling whenever you like.
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Originally Posted by tigerlover 
youve got to get her to stop drinking or eles shell die. she is dying right now. save her.
Do anything you can.
Do anything you can.
Not how it works.
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To put it in perspective, here's my favorite recovery song -- I don't know if he actually wrote it about drinking per se, but James Taylor's "B.S.U.R." sums it up nicely:
James Taylor B.S.U.R. - YouTube
James Taylor B.S.U.R. - YouTube
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