Spinach

A year or more I came here after many years of hoping I could
control or even go a day I had a thirty year record of reckless drinking
and quite a few medical problems most but not all that have
resolved and that those that haven't I mostly cope .
I received a phone call from my Mum telling me my Dad had died
suddenly last Sunday on holiday she and a school friend were now
in a village hours from home unable to drive and traumatised
and grieving .
I would normally have phoned for help for them and picked up
a drink and joined my own misery.
Last Sunday my wife and myself planned a journey involving
4am start train changes , location of coroners courts numbers
needed to get to help drive my Dads car get Mum home and her
friend to a train. I had money to do this from not drinking I could
help and be constructive in organising all the miriad of things that
needed doing . I am still devastated but it wasn't about me or
another reason to drink and the pride that Dad had seen me sober
and happy and seamingly not concerned about drinking is helping.
This all could not have happened without this place.
To all struggling, your first battles will help you too not only a happier time but a place of great strength you just have to keep going .
Thank you to all on here .
Love John

Dee74

I'm really sorry for your loss John but I'm so glad you were able to be there for your mum.

Thanks so much for your post too

D

Jeni26

Oh John I'm so sorry for your loss my friend xxx

Thankyou for such an inspirational post. It was good you were able to be sober for your Mum at such a difficult time.

Thinking of you lots xxx

Pondlady

John,
Very sorry for the loss of your Dad. What a gift sobriety provided you and your family....to be fully present in a time of great need. Especially touching, is your memory of your father's pride in you. Thank you for sharing .

A few years ago, my father had a serious surgery. I was so anxious the night before and drank too much wine, and I was driving my parents to the hospital in the early am I was disgusted with myself in the morning...thinking how could I have done something so stupid at such a critical time. I recently returned from a trip to help my Dad, and his pride in me for stopping drinking, makes me teary. I understand a father's pride.

doggonecarl

And thank you!

sugarbear1

You have my condolences on your loss

Glad you are staying stopped

Hugs & love to you and your family,
~SB

venuscat

So sorry for the loss of your dad John.
I'm sure he was very very proud of you;
thank you so much for sharing all of this with us.

Love Venus xx

Sasha4

I'm sorry John for your Dads passing.
Thank goodness your mum has you to take care of her.
Your Dad would be proud of what our doing to help.

I wish you and your family love during this difficult time.

Love to you John
xx

Leshar

Hello, I'm so sorry for you and for your family on the sudden loss of your Father.
You sound strong and determined, and your post is indeed an inspiration to those of us beginning our journey.
Thank you, and take care of yourself.

Sasha4

I'm sorry John for your Dads passing.
Thank goodness your mum has you to take care of her.
Your Dad would be proud of what our doing to help.

I wish you and your family love during this difficult time.

Love to you John
xx

sassu78

I'm so sorry for your loss John!

myrtle1

I'm so sorry for your loss but thank you for the wonderful post

wiscsober

John, my hopes are with you and your family.
I am sorry for your loss.
Thank you for living sober and being present.
You are an inspiration for all of us,
but mostly to the newcomer and those suffering.

Thank you -- take care -- peace.

LadyinBC

Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. So sorry for your loss.

hypochondriac

So sorry for your loss John, but glad your dad got to see you sober and that you were able to help your mum in this way. Thinking of you xxx