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Old 06-21-2013, 07:50 PM
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I am out :-(

Just wanted to TY guys/girls for all the support I have gotten here. But I am not in a place I like right now & feel isolation is best for me. I am an plan to stay sober, that is not a problem now. I will check this post tomorrow from my PC just to thank everyone 1 last time. Again TY all.
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Old 06-21-2013, 07:54 PM
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your call of course, but I think isolation is about the worst thing we can do.

I tended to think way too much left to my own devices - I needed to connect with people and feel a part of something...I needed to be accountable too.

whats the problem with checking in here AW?

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Old 06-21-2013, 08:06 PM
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I hope you figure out what you need to figure out. Always someone here to listen and help. Have a great weekend.
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Old 06-21-2013, 08:09 PM
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Yes, why choose to isolate? Isolation was about the worst thing in the world for my own addiction.
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Old 06-21-2013, 08:11 PM
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Whatever you feel is right, but I always felt when someone tells people they want to be alone, in telling people they are shouting out the opposite indirectly.

Even just coming here and reading people's posts helps.
Sometimes I fall asleep reading, which is nice, also because I have spent two hours reading encouraging stuf...mind off of the anxiety, and its not two hours drinking on the couch.

Good luck to you. Hope all is well.
And if that's what works for you the. More power to you, personally I just get in my head too much and that's not a cycle that ends easily
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Old 06-21-2013, 08:14 PM
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I second that Jennie. My addiction thrived in isolation because it prevented me from fully seeing the consequences of my drinking, particularly the effect it had on others around me.

Do what you need to do August, but if it's sobriety you want, I doubt you will find a more supportive, understanding, forgiving and helpful community than the good folks here at SR.
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Old 06-21-2013, 08:18 PM
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Your reasons are what they are, but ( Only asking and I dont know how else to say it) why post that you are out? I would not have made a post at all, I just would have left. Are you willing to talk about it? I hope that you will reconsider. Support is essential in everyone's life.
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Old 06-21-2013, 08:27 PM
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AW, I don't want to read too much into your post, but I think it might be helpful to ask yourself what you're seeking right now?

I have often found that when people say things like "don't worry about me" what they really mean is "please worry about me".

Maybe that isn't the case for you, but if it is, it might be good for you to try thinking about what needs you are feeling and how you can ask for them directly.

Again, please excuse me if I'm overstepping, I only know that it took me a long time to learn how to express my needs directly. I would do things like not call friends to see how long it would take them to call me, or go away for the weekend without telling anyone to see if anyone noticed. It made me unhappy and never elicited the responses I hoped for. Learning how to recognize my needs and express them directly has made me a lot happier.
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Old 06-21-2013, 08:35 PM
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For me...I'm either facing toward the Light of the Spirit or turning my back on it. I sometimes will look away from the Light...but I always try to turn back. Leaving any type of on-going recovery should really be thought about.
I always like to run things by my sponsor....but that's just me. Good luck...
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Old 06-21-2013, 09:04 PM
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Originally Posted by AugustWest11 View Post
Just wanted to TY guys/girls for all the support I have gotten here. But I am not in a place I like right now & feel isolation is best for me. I am an plan to stay sober, that is not a problem now. I will check this post tomorrow from my PC just to thank everyone 1 last time. Again TY all.

Maybe isolation isnt such a great idea. It can really be hard to come back from, and you can risk becoming a shut in. The longer you are alone, the more your social skills deplete and you end up having a harder time re-assimilating back into society. At the very least, I would check the forum and communicate, so you have some interaction and support, but its your call.
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Old 06-21-2013, 10:21 PM
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Hi, August.

I second all that's been said above - isolation isn't the best choice, IMHO.

I am quite a "lonely wolf" myself, and generally I'm ok with that. But I have to admit that my addiction loved isolation as well.

I don't know your reasons for that. I can only tell out of my own experience. Sometimes I seek isolation in order "to sort things out" and understand who I am and what I want in life and to avoid pressure from those who are close to me.

But it's a different story with SR - for the last 8 months I sorted out more than, I think, in the last 10 years.

Anyway, whatever your decision is, remember there are always people here who will support you and offer light of their souls when you need it.

Best luck to you.
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Old 06-21-2013, 10:26 PM
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I agree with MB-I'm quite an 'alone' person too and I'm quite happy with that. I don't really feel the need to be out socialising...but SR is a different matter. It's being in here and listening to and learning from others that has made the difference to my life.

I've known many who have left this forum and then slipped because their addiction got them all to itself.

Be well. Be strong. And remember where we are x
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Old 06-22-2013, 03:42 AM
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Old 06-22-2013, 03:49 AM
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I'm sorry you're not in a good place right now. We understand, as we've been in that same place before. I hope when you check in again, you'll feel the support of SR and decide to not isolate yourself.
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Old 06-22-2013, 04:00 AM
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Originally Posted by Pondlady View Post
I'm sorry you're not in a good place right now. We understand, as we've been in that same place before. I hope when you check in again, you'll feel the support of SR and decide to not isolate yourself.
Thank you all; I do feel the support here; allot .. But I have to move and I will not be able to afford the net .. I will read from time to time when I can get to public net. But not seeking attention; I might be crying out; but the main reason for this post was b\c I wanted to let the few who have reached out know why I wasn't returning their messages . I am staying sober; I have no choice in the matter now. I know this .. I am just in a very dark place and really don't know where else to go but in a hole . Between my physical pain and the mental pain; I am done. I have no where else to turn to nothing else to offer anyone. I have hit the point where I have 2 choices now; stay in this town w\ no family or friends; or go back to my home town and more then likely end up self medicating cause I have no insurance own there .. Be it alcohol or anything to take the pain away .. Sooner or later I would be alone or dead anyway .. Yes I sound bleak I know; but I have been this way 30 or so years and don't know any other way to be .. But as I said I am and will stay sober in this town . I am not sure how often I will be able to check or respond in the next coming weeks; so again I just wanted to let some nice people who extended their hand to me what was up .. I should be able to respond today & maybe tomorrow. Not 100% positive though .. Again TY all so much .. I know I have support here when I can get to wifi..
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Old 06-22-2013, 04:09 AM
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Good Morning AG,
Nice to hear from you. I look forward to hearing from you when you do get on line. Our public library here, has free internet and computers too.....just a thought
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Old 06-22-2013, 04:13 AM
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A place that I and millions go is AA for help and it can easily be free. In your general area there are hundreds of meetings a day. We have to get out of ourselves and be honest, I wasn't for a couple of years so I suffered. I found that my thinking sure wasn't my strong point as it was cluttered with too much stuff that got me into this condition in the first place. BE WELL
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Old 06-22-2013, 04:15 AM
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Originally Posted by Pondlady View Post
Good Morning AG,
Nice to hear from you. I look forward to hearing from you when you do get on line. Our public library here, has free internet and computers too.....just a thought
Thanx; here too; but I hate people lol as in Public Agoraphobia blows .. But as I said I will try to .. Depends on how work goes and all that .. If I feel like dealing w\ the people and so on ..
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Originally Posted by visch1 View Post
A place that I and millions go is AA for help and it can easily be free. In your general area there are hundreds of meetings a day. We have to get out of ourselves and be honest, I wasn't for a couple of years so I suffered. I found that my thinking sure wasn't my strong point as it was cluttered with too much stuff that got me into this condition in the first place. BE WELL
Thanx; but AA is not for me; too many people .. I get too anxious; to the point of passing out But TY.
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