sunya

I have been clean over sixty days now. I feel so lonely today. It's friday and I guess im bored. I had to let go of my old friends to maintain my sobriety. I joined this site today. I see I'm not alone even though I feel lonely inside.

doggonecarl

welcome to SR. Sorry you are feeling down. What are you doing to meet new, sober, friends?

tootsl1

Hi sunya and massive congratulations on 60 days already. Many find it hard in the early days, we have to let go of old friends and habits, and feel a little too frail yet to start new ones. Here is a great way to start socialising, you will find plenty of threads to look through until you find folk you feel you have things in common with- often n several threads!!

What did you like to do before drink took over your life? Perhaps it's time to look afresh at old hobbies
In the mean time

sunya

Thanks for welcoming me. My only hobby was drinking. I drank for 25 years. Im 42 now. So much wasted time. I haven't found anything I really enjoy doing. Still searching.

least

to the family! I think loneliness is common when you're first recovering as you are losing your drinking buddies and looking to make real friends. It will pass, I promise. Get out of yourself to pass the time. Volunteer somewhere. It will help others and you too.

Tammy47

welcome sunya. you are not alone. we are here for you.

I do understand how you feel. Give yourself time, its early days. And then, as you recover and are sober, you may have a feeling for what you are truly interested in doing, hobby wise etc. Ride the waves so to speak, and be patient with yourself. My only hobby was drinking too. A few months sober and suttle changes have occurred. I'm now involved in dog volunteering, meditation class etc and have made great F2F friends. It really does get better, but give it time.

Debe5

Hey Sunya I am only 6 days sober but this site truly is like a friend. I am lucky to have plenty of support but reading others posts reminds me, encourages me, and certainly makes me feel less alone. I hope it works for you as well. Awesome on the 60 days!

Committed

We're in the same boat. I too am 42 and have been drinking for about 25 years. I'm on day 87 and the loneliness is really hard thing for me. Stay with this site. It's helped me out like I couldn't imagine.

Joe Nerv

OK...

Not sure why nobody has yet mentioned AA????

Have you been to any meetings? There is soooo much to be had there regarding tools to stay sober, grow, gain new interests, make friends, and most importantly get out of our own heads. Lots of people out there who could use your experience to help them stay sober.

MeSoSober

Sunya, CONGRATULATIONS on your sixty days!

Here's a link to the craigslist volunteer gigs page for the Detroit metro area:

detroit metro volunteers classifieds - craigslist

If you're feeling up to it, volunteering is just an across-the-board win -- serves as something to distract you from drinking, gets you out and engaged with other people to help alleviate your loneliness, and you're giving back to your community, helping someone else in need, which is great for that person and for your self-esteem.

If you see the "Help Seniors Enjoy Their Golden Years," I recently started doing something just like that here in Virginia.

Hope you're feeling better soon. Stay strong!

Acheleus

I just went walking for hours and I felt lonely. I hated the fact that I couldn't go into a bar and start drinking and mingling with people. But I made it through my 23rd day of sobriety, and as I was walking home I started talking to a girl and she lives across the street from me. She was very smart and nice and she is the first girl I have approached and had a conversation with sober in a LONG time. So I am making tiny steps. We can come out of our shells when we realize alcohol doesn't have to hold us back. The more you resist your demons the more power you give them--you have to see through them. I hope you feel less lonely in the coming days. I have learned that patience is so important for true change to occur.

Dee74

Hi Sunya

It can be a lonely time in early recovery but there's a lot of support here - Volunteering was good for me - it gave me something to do, I got back into connecting with people, and I feel I was doing something useful

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Nighthawk8820

Boredom and loneliness comes with the territory, unfortunately. The trick is stepping out of your comfort zone and trying new things. Sobriety frees you to go and do things you never have, or things you wanted to try, but couldnt before. You have to push yourself at this stage and challenge yourself daily. Its scary at first, but it gets easy. The whole thing can be pretty awesome too.