Have a wedding in 2 weeks.
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Have a wedding in 2 weeks.
I have a wedding in two weeks and my cousins girlfriend says "you're going to go get really hammered with us on the wedding right?". I tell her I'm trying to cut back, and she says it's a special occasion so I have to.
See this is the crap that really pisses me off. You tell a person you want to quit, or you have an issue with drinking and they think it's a big damn game to them. It literally makes me mad. You can't reason with these people. I've been isolating myself the past week or so because of this too. The less people I have to explain why I'm not drinking to the better. It's incredible so many people have an issue with me not drinking with them. I'm just glad the majority of my family doesn't drink at all. We went to the beach today for fathers day and the only one that brought a drink to the beach was my brother in law, and it was one. Man, JUST LEAVE ME ALONE!
See this is the crap that really pisses me off. You tell a person you want to quit, or you have an issue with drinking and they think it's a big damn game to them. It literally makes me mad. You can't reason with these people. I've been isolating myself the past week or so because of this too. The less people I have to explain why I'm not drinking to the better. It's incredible so many people have an issue with me not drinking with them. I'm just glad the majority of my family doesn't drink at all. We went to the beach today for fathers day and the only one that brought a drink to the beach was my brother in law, and it was one. Man, JUST LEAVE ME ALONE!
she says it's a special occasion so I have to
No, you do NOT have to drink for any reason. Be firm with them and tell them "I'm not drinking!" Repeat as necessary until they leave you alone.
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The thing I'm finding that is easier is just to tell people that you don't feel like going out, or you got work the next day or something like that. It's crazy but nobody asks a question if you say these things, and most the time it's true. I am tired of going out, I do have other priorities. I tell them how much I drink and they don't even think its a big deal. I normally top off a 750ml of whisky a day, I've told them that, and the response is either drink less, or drink beer. hahahahahaha. It would take a good 30 beers to get me that tore up.
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What I am hearing is that you want others to understand the magnitude of your situation. So, I hear you completely. Drinking is doing nothing good for you at all. You have so much more to live for than a bottle, and a chronic hangover.
These friends of yours may have their own alcohol problem. The only person that needs any explanation is.....No one. Keep doing your thing. When the subject comes up just say " NO, I am not drinking tonight!
These friends of yours may have their own alcohol problem. The only person that needs any explanation is.....No one. Keep doing your thing. When the subject comes up just say " NO, I am not drinking tonight!
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"But who else will hold your hair for you when you're puking?"
Cheeky one liners aside, when you said you were cutting back she heard Oh, this is someone else that can turn into a **** show with me YAY! As others have said, guard your sobriety as if your life depends on it. Do you have an escape plan and support (people there, people to text, call) for the day?
Cheeky one liners aside, when you said you were cutting back she heard Oh, this is someone else that can turn into a **** show with me YAY! As others have said, guard your sobriety as if your life depends on it. Do you have an escape plan and support (people there, people to text, call) for the day?
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Stark, don't do it. Don't give in to what people think you should do . If I knew about this site before I relapsed, I wouldn't have relapsed. Don't become me and all the others before me. Stay strong, say no. It's totally worth it.
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